Posted by:
smirkorama
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Date: July 13, 2019 04:05AM
sbg Wrote:
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> And why on earth does anyone sign up to be number
> 4,5,6,7....clearly there is an issue
Well, you asked. And it does make a person wonder.
I have several associates that have "scored" those kinds of numbers in marriage and divorce. They are both believing MORmONS. Married to each other at time. They both claim to be highly supportive of the concept of marriage. I am not trying to be ridiculous, that is what they say, since how you asked.
Her first three marriages only lasted about 2 years each time. The next 3 (that we know about) only lasted about 2 months each. It is highly suspected that she has several more marriages than the 6 that she will acknowledge, as well as shacking up several times. Sometime after she had gone for at least 6 marriages and divorces, I dated her, off and on as she repeatedly broke up with me, and then I would patch things up, and then we would get back together for a while. She seemed to be addicted to the emotional roller coaster ride of breaking up and making up. FTR, I really REALLY like her, still do, which is more than I can say for my utterly disastrous and highly destructive mental case ex wife. The mentioned girl friend was tons of fun, and very lovable, to me, when we were on. The off times were hard to take.
I think that one of her reasons for breaking up with me was her attempting to emotionally batter me and her attempt to coerce me into proposing/ marrying her, in order to (supposedly) prevent more break ups and separation. However, going by her track record, I knew that marriage was really meaningless / powerless when it came to retaining her. In Fact, going by how she had operated with former marriage partners in the past, in my estimation marriage would really serve as the final count down to the complete termination of our relationship, which I hoped to avoid ....and which was coming anyway. I suspect that IF I had married her, with in two weeks she would disappear and then I would get served divorced papers. and at that point, I would forever be officially passe, just like all of her other exes.
The first time we broke up/ split up, it was after she stood me up. She had demanded a mid week date because she said she was not getting enough of me with only dating through the week end, Friday and Saturday nights and often on Sunday too, and the mid week phone call sessions EVERY night at her insistence and direction. I agreed to a mid week date, made arrangements for it / set the time and place, and then when that time for the date came, she stood me up for the date that she had demanded. (???????)
She insists that she wants to be married, that she is in favor of the concept, HOWEVER, she definitely does NOT stay married or in a relationship. I strongly think that she will end up living out her twilight years alone. I was her last relationship, that was 6 years ago. Interacting with her grandkids has taken over for having an adult relationship.
IF the separation gaps are not counted, I managed to have a relationship with her much longer that any of her other arrangements / partnerships.
I met and became good friends with one her exes, another 6 or 7 times person, when he asked me how things were going with her, and I told him. So, as we became friends, we were able to compare a lot of notes on her. FTR he is very TBM, and he says and I have no reason to doubt him, that she cheated on everyone of her six husbands which included him. She claims that everyone of her husband's cheated on her, which is likely pathological projection. ....She has mental and emotional problems, that she was getting professional treatment for when she was married to him, and which she intently with held specific details on from him, because she did not want him to know what was really going on with her.
He feels very badly about being married and divorced 7 times, so does she.
She was very TBM in belief, but NOT in practice. SHe has been exed 3 times, but still bitterly defends THE church which has terminally jettisoned her. Ironically, one of her stated objections to him was that he was TOO churchy / TOO rigid religiously/ TOO devout. Her objection to me was that I was against the church (????????).
She seems to have self loathing which ends up manifesting itself as her having to punish people (partners) for the sin/ mistake of liking her.
He has a friend, who I have met several times, who has been married at least 14 times.
When my friend feels bad about his 7 failed marriages, I tell him that he can count my utterly disastrous marriage as 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 blown marriages for me, IF he wants to, because that is how bad that it seems to me.
Relationships are tricky, and MORmONISM does NOT help that situation with its MORmON style demands and ideals, SO CONTRARY to what MORmONISM insists.