Mother Who Knows
Date: January 07, 2020 04:43PM
I was a true blue, very active Mormon mother, and my Mormon husband became inactive, after discovering the Truth, and I have been where your wife is, now.
I am 99% sure that the Mormon cult is blaming your wife for your inactivity.
The cult is probably harrassing her about "porn addiction".
She has probably been brainwashed into thinking that you are being influenced by Satan.
Your wife's trusted "prophets" have told her that those who leave the Mormon cult are "offended, lazy, and wanting to sin." This means YOU!
Be prepared for your wife to strike out at you with heightened intensity after the next Mormon General Conference. Mormon leaders talk way too much about pornography, and are quick to accuse less-active husbands of being addicted.
IMO, there is nothing very unusual about your wife's accusations. You are married to a brainwashed Mormon, so live with it. I'm with poster Slskipper. YOU need to be more sensitive to her wishes. With Mormonism, it is everyone else who must tip-toe on eggshells, and alter their behavior, appearance, and lifetsyle to suit the Mormons. Otherwise, you can expect all those punishments from both your wife and her cult: the silent treatment, shunning, blaming, harsh judgments, smear campaigns, ganging up with other Mormons against you, and manipulations of all kinds.
Still...I agree that her issues might be more than just the "porn" you are watching. Like the other posters said she is probably very insecure in her marriage, now that you have left the cult. Maybe she is a narcissistic control freak. I don't know your wife, but Narcissists are common in the Narcissistic Mormon cult. Maybe she's just a nice person who needs more of your attention, and the TV draws you away from her. It isn't something she wants to share with you.
Find some interest that BOTH of you can share together. Or, just turn off the commercials and listen to what she has to say about her day, about your children, etc. Spend more time with your family. This would be good general advice, anyway, and would probably make your life better all around!
Compromise works well, if your wife is normal, and not a narcissist. Ask her which specific show seems worse to her than than the others, and give up just that one show. Or, you could watch together and ff over the sex scenes. Yeah, the sex junk is on there, yet the rest of the show might be good. Sex scenes depress me, and, frankly bore me, because they are from a male perspective. I ff past those scenes, and past the commercials. Less time in front of the TV is always a life improvement, IMO. I have a lot of other things going on. Maybe, you could wait, and watch your TV shows as re-runs, in the future, after you and your wife are more secure, or divorced.