Posted by:
notinspite
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Date: June 26, 2011 08:12AM
I was a Mormon that lived in both universes. The tight ship Mormon one and the normal hip society one...my whole family practically still does (Mormonism is so astounding to me because they are the only cult in America that is mainstream and people become Mormon to be popular or accepted...that is if you live in a community that is ran by the Mormons. looking back I saw it frequently. I was underground-jack Mormon but still loved my religion, heritage, and whole heartily believed it). I could cross between both at any time or be in both. Now that I have sorted out the truth I don't visit the Mormon parallel universe but tomorrow I am going home to visit my Mormon family that I haven’t seen yet since people found out I was no longer a believing Mormon. There is a huge difference to the Mormons if you are a wayward project or someone that will outwardly tell you why it's not true and tell you to stop putting their name in the temple so you will soften your heart and come back. I told my sister that yesterday when she told me the list of people that have been doing that. I have to put on my filter for the next 9 days and my I don't care that the Mormon Church is the biggest joke mask.
It has been a very lonely journey and I have finally found some people that understand me...never Mormons..but I still long for the closeness of someone that walked in my shoes, went to BYU, full heartily believed the whole stupid religion and then found out the truth and knew they could never go back. That's where this website has come into play. Whenever I feel alone… or like..am I crazy??..I get on here and a lot of the time; find the same very intelligent people writing over and over again. I feel like I can relate to them and they know my pain. Mormonism is a very distinct special cult that would have to be lived to fully understand. (Sometimes my boyfriend falls asleep when I tell him crazy Mormon stories) I want to thank them and tell people it's good to have a voice of reason, especially when people are too scared to say anything about religion. There is a fine line that I keep crossing that is offending my loved ones and that’s what scares me the most. I have been on a three-year journey that is nowhere near over. I tell my boyfriend that I can't wait for the day when I never talk about the stupid Mormon religion but don't know if it will ever come. I still have family that are members so I can never let it rest. I am going to Utah and Idaho tomorrow to face the family and friends that I haven’t seen since I came out. I am up late and scared for the sorrowful disappointed faces they will share with me. I don't want to go and think why I am putting myself through this pain? I know that I need to be strong and face them. I even think what if someone is in a place I was in four years ago starting his or her journey out? I need to be my natural self, because I wish I had gotten out sooner.
I know everyone that deals with this will adjust to the outside world in different ways and in different time periods but I literally can see different stages I have gone through in this process and right now I think I am still angry and not ready to face my super Mormon family. I am especially scared of their dominant husbands and how they will be on the defense. They don't want me to be around their wives of older children in fear that I may say something or they will see that you can leave and be happy. People reading this I want you to know that I almost went on a mission and graduated from BYU-I. I know too much and know how to target them where it hurts. The men are scared and I am too. I just want to live my life and be happy. I am not happy knowing what I know and not being able to explain it all to my loved ones.
I am writing this to help others, get it off my racing mind, and read responses from other people that have advice for me who are further along in their journey… out of a manipulative organization that puts stipulations on self worth according to your standing with Heavenly father.
I went to a closing ceremony yesterday for my niece in Mesa, Time to Blossom (similar to EFY). I wanted to cry because they talked about all these great topics and addressed issues that girls face when it comes to puberty but it all related to the gospel and living a pure life. I told my sister when she asked me what I thought of it that I wish I had gone to a camp like that as an adolcesnt but feel sad that they think their self worth is tied into living the church’s version of what is righteous. She responded by saying of course they have self worth, you can always repent. I decided there that I should just stop talking about it with her. She has 5 kids and I don't want to ruin or disrupt a good thing, she is already too deep. I made sure to tell her yesterday that I left at a crucial turning point in my life, a pivotal moment, before marriage and children. I feel a lot better now that I have written this all down. I have experienced a lot of pain, much like a lot of people that turn here for support. I hope I have helped maybe just one person. My stomach is in knots and I hope I don't slip by saying something offensive.