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Posted by: thedesertrat1 ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 12:54PM

It has become my opinion that just because they have you listed as a member you are only a member in reality if you participate. If anyone disassociates themselves from any organization then they are in fact no longer a member of that organization.
It doesn't matter what THEY have written down! If you no longer participate nor affiliate you are ipso facto not a member.
So in my not so humble opinion quit worrying about it. If you want to say you are a member then say so. If you want to say you are not a member then say so. HOWEVER it is nobody's business but yours and if you so state to anyone asking you create power and self determination within yourself!!!
However if formal resignation gives you peace of mind then by all means do it.
You own your life! Do what you feel to be in your best interest!!!

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Posted by: Roy G Biv ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 02:55PM

I don't think it's as much the thinking that they need to resign officially so they are no longer a member.

I think it's more about spending a portion of your life being told what to do by an autocratic organization, and then reaching the point where you tell them they are now going to do what you tell them to do.....take me off your records.

It more symbolic, not so much official.

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Posted by: CL2 ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 03:25PM

My daughter wouldn't leave me alone about going back to church and so I resigned. The bishop at the time is a friend and he said he wouldn't tell anyone and he didn't. It is obvious. I had to tell the new bishop to stop sending ministers. For some reason, all the bishops who are called are either my neighbors or friends from the past.

But my nonmo boyfriend was worried about how I'd react if I did resign. He sent me all my e-mails where I had said I'd never jump through their hoops. I told him I had to do it. I've never regretted it. Whether the neighbors know or not, I don't care. The ward members still invite me to activities. It goes in spurts. Actually, I didn't get a ward Christmas card this year. Wow! That's a first. I just realized that. Maybe the word is getting out. It was around the end of January last year that I told the bishop we had resigned and I wanted to be left alone. Seems to have worked.

I don't tell people, but I know myself that I'm no longer mormon. It is really important to me to know that after what they put me through.



Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 02/11/2020 03:26PM by cl2.

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Posted by: messygoop ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 03:37PM


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Posted by: Warrior71783 ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 03:42PM

Their brainwashing is still in my head. Am i a member in my head?

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 04:03PM

And I welcome contact and conversation with any member, except my TBM daughter.

But I would be proud and happy to share with anyone else my true feelings about the church of my happy, happy youth!

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Posted by: macaRomney ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 04:50PM

Yep, just like EOD I am as well, and remember many fine things from my youth

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Posted by: Cheryl ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 05:58PM

You're no longer a member if you no longer associate with the organization.

Mormons are mistaken in thinking they get to choose your membership after you no longer attend or pay tithes.

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Posted by: babyloncansuckit ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 11:36PM

But they boast of 16 million members. I suppose it’s like a creepy stalker considering you their friend.

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Posted by: Cheryl ( )
Date: February 12, 2020 12:08PM

Law enforcement has a right to "release" a person from custody.

Members of churches are not prisoners. They have a right to say when they're done.

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Posted by: kenc ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 06:18PM

I had to resign my membership because I needed to tell them you no longer control my life. As a former full time employee with CES for 27 years, I welcomed to opportunity to quit CES (there is a process for that), and my membership (writing the letter).

It just made me feel better. I may be different because if you think they have a hold over you as a "normal" member, you cannot imagine the control they have over you if you work for CES full time.

Former members' different circumstances likely make the decision to formally resign, different for them. My circumstances compelled me to "need" to make a statement.

I respect everyone's decision whatever it is.

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 06:25PM

Even when it's the wrong one!?!? (j/k)

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 06:26PM

I respect all of your decisions, EOD. Does that answer your question?

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 06:39PM

Yes, but the subtext made me sneeze.

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 06:40PM

I have that effect on many people.

I also elicit frequent guffaws (whatever they are) and some very creative curses.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/11/2020 06:41PM by Lot's Wife.

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 06:52PM

It's probably because you're not from Canada.

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 10:18PM

Guffaw!













Whatever that means.

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Posted by: BellowingBoomer ( )
Date: February 11, 2020 08:48PM

question is Could I ever stop being a member? I will continue to wear my "members only" jacket and drink straight Bosco from a dixie cup.

What club are you guys talking about?

Give it another 20 years it won't matter and prob won't exist as people get tired of paying monthly dues of toilet cleaning and cash dumps.

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Posted by: Dave the Atheist ( )
Date: February 12, 2020 12:28AM

I have not resigned and they have not excommunicated me.

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Posted by: Lethbridge Reprobate ( )
Date: February 12, 2020 12:44AM

Not since 2012...and I never really felt like a Mormon.

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 12, 2020 12:50AM

Was your wife a believer?

Don't answer if the question is too intrusive.

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Posted by: Lethbridge Reprobate ( )
Date: February 13, 2020 01:53AM

My wife was a Catholic and my children and grandchildren are nevermos.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/13/2020 01:55AM by Lethbridge Reprobate.

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 13, 2020 03:11AM

Ah, that's right. I forgot.

I hope your vacation went well.

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Posted by: Lethbridge Reprobate ( )
Date: February 15, 2020 02:58PM

It was really good thank you.

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Posted by: forestpal ( )
Date: February 12, 2020 04:41AM

No, and I had to make it known that my children and I were no longer members. Period!

The Mormon leaders had physically abused my children, and my little girl had been molested by the bishop's son. She was asleep in her sleeping bag, and the creep did a lot more than the guy on the plane did to Elizabeth Smart. My daughter screamed, and there were kids that saw what was happening, but the bishop threatened the kids not to tell. He said that if the parents found out, there would be no more camp-outs or activities of any kind, and that everyone would hate the snitch who told. When my daughter finally told us, we all cried, and I promised my kids that they never had to go there again. Previously, I had actually thrown one Mormon leader out of my house. I heard my little boy crying, and came into the living room, and there was this thug, carrying him towards the door, to force him to go to some church thing. When I told him to put my son down, the creep started arguing with me. I finally yelled that I was calling the police, and started to dial 911, and the man actually ran out of the house. This guy was later promoted to Stake President.

I let the Mormons know that I had quit my three callings, effective immediately, and that I had taken my children out of harm's way, and that no one was to ever lay a hand on them, again. They harassed us, in the extreme, coming into our house, when my kids would obey them and open the door to them, and threatening us, and maligning me in front of the kids. Two neighbors were comparing me to a member of the ward who was a drug dealer, who had abandoned her children, and my oldest son stood up and said, "This conversation is OVER. You must leave, now." I stood up, and we escorted the men out, without saying another word. The late-night door pounding didn't stop until I officially resigned. I had written in my letter that should there be any more contact from the Mormons, we would call the police. I installed a chain on the door, and a "No Solicitors" sign. My kids had learned the hard way, to not open the door.

Officially resigning, and threatening police action were the only things that worked, in our case. Being "less active" wasn't enough. After the nastiness and intimidation died down, the arrogant Mormons tried being nice, to pressure me into playing the organ and teaching organ lessons--as if!!! I told them to hire a paid organist, like the Christian churches did.

I can't imagine still being a member of that nasty cult, and dealing with those nasty bullies and pervs. Over half of the RS RS were on drugs of some kind--antidepressants, tranquilizers, most took Ambien every night and lived on Coke or Pepsi all day. We took a poll. The man I called the police on had a criminal record of manslaughter, and had been acquitted. (I didn't know that, until after we resigned, but he was very scary.) My home teacher was a crook who made the front page of the paper, when he declared bankruptcy, and caused some Mormon neighbors to lose their houses, that they had mortgaged to join his get-rich-quick scam. One wife told me about her attorney husband's crooked business dealings, and was deciding whether or not to divorce him. The Stake president's councellor was caught having an affair with our next door neighbor's son's wife. No one was excommunicated for that. Most of the ward kids turned out badly, too, with drug and alcohol abuse, unwanted pregnancies, and the ugly bishop's son who molested my little girl molested his own daughters, and was divorced, but quickly married someone else in the temple and became the ward's Elder's Quorum President. There are about 30 more horror stories, that you would not believe, about this quiet middle-class Utah Mormon neighborhood! I know some of the happenings, from when I was assigned to the older Mormon Single Adults. Single women were easy prey. I did not want anything to do with all that corruption, and JS's evil cult of lies.

I feel like resigning all over again. Why do it just once? Having my kids resign with me was satisfying. I wish I could have sued, but my attorney friends said I didn't have a chance. The bishop was an attorney, who later became a temple president and a Seventies. He hit on me, and one of my single friends, and one of my married friends. These were women who told the truth. My married friend's husband left the church, immediately, and my friend did a few years later. The idiot who threatened me with failure in life and failure for my children, beat his son bloody, in front of my kids and others.

Who do these horrible people think they are, imposing themselves into my life, and my children's lives, and into our happy home?

Resigning isn't enough.

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Posted by: Tutu not signed in ( )
Date: February 12, 2020 10:44AM

I resigned at age 60.

It was a birthday present.

I wasn't active for decades.....before resigning.


I needed a celebration.

As a non believer.......I didn't want to be counted as one of them.

It was important for me to "unjoin". I'd be unbaptized if I could. Any ideas?


I wasn't pressured to resign.
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I will never pressure anyone to resign.

Life is just a bowl of cherries with lots of pits.

ENJOY

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Posted by: Elder Berry ( )
Date: February 12, 2020 12:42PM

What if I stop going but keep wearing their underwear? I did that for almost a decade.

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Posted by: doyle18 ( )
Date: February 15, 2020 02:36PM

No, I resigned shortly before the divorce from my TBM ex-husband was final. I did that because I didn't want him to use the cult as a way to harass me as he was abusive, or to make up stuff about me. I did have to threaten to press harassment charges to make it clear that once they received my resignation, I was no longer a member. Apparently, the threats were enough although I was prepared to follow through, as they sent the confirmation that I was "no longer a member." The missionaries have an apartment in the neighborhood, but they've left me alone which is nice.

I did notice that one building once owned by the Mormon cult has been sold as it's now a different church. That building was where the YSA ward met at the time I was with my TBM ex-husband, so it was a surprise to see that.



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Posted by: saucie ( )
Date: February 15, 2020 04:45PM

I resigned a few years ago and did a celebration dance in honor

of it . I had been inactive for a year I think prior to sending

in my resignation. I was glad to do it then. I now realize

that I didn't really have to formally resign because they don't

have power over me and never did . I don't have to follow their

rules and neither do any of you wether you are a member or not.

You're not a slave. You belong to you.... well unless you

belong to Elderolddog which you don't because I do.

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: February 15, 2020 05:07PM

A sheep station in central Australia.

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