Posted by:
ddrakep
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Date: June 27, 2011 12:52AM
Hey everyone. I need some help and was wondering if any of you could help me. I need some advice. Let me give you some background. I was raised in the church, wife was not. We met, dated for 3 years and was married civily in 1998. In 2004, under some pressure from my family, we started attending church and went through the temple and sealed to our 2 kids. We continued to attend church for a couple of years, but going inactive in 2006. I've always had questions about the church. Questioned JS and the BOM. Also, why would god punish good people from seeing their family, just because they are not lDS? It just never made sense to me. My wife on the other hand, although not growing up in the church, and knowing very litte, has still held onto hope that we would go back. I took off my g's in 2008, and she finally took hers off for the most part last year. She has very little if any knowledge of the church or any doctorine. For her it's the social aspect as well as what other friends and family think about her not going to church or wearing g's. When she does wear them, she does when we will be with other people who would notice and possibly care.
Anyways... i've for years wanted to find a way to prove my doubts in the church and the doctorine. I've always had a feeling that things were not true. Even at a young age. I finally found this site a few months back, and people gave me some good advice about books and items I could read to help prove my doubts true. The best book so far has been No man knows my history. I'm about halfway through, and love this book. What great evidence proving it all a sham. I approached my wife last night and told her about my research and what I had come across. I told her that I don't believe anymore and that the church is a scam. She got upset and said that she finally knows that I will never go back to the church. She wouldn't listen to any of the stuff I have researched that prove so many things false. She just keeps telling me that she will listen when she is ready and that she still believes.
To make a longs story short, I need some advice on how to tell her the truths when she finally is ready. I want my answer to be good and have many items to lay out on the line showing her the falseness. Here is what i've come across...
Book of Abraham
Native Americans DNA
Joseph Smith polygamist (young girls)
Tithing/lack of money back to wards/members
I think that these items are amazing, especially since they convinced me of the truth. I just want to have many items to show her to help me to show her why I think it's not true. I know I need to just give her time, and she will come ask when she is ready, that is why I want to be prepared when she does.
Thank you for anything you can pass along to me. Thank you all.