Name your achievements since leaving LDS.inc. Especially if you know you wouldn’t have done it otherwise.
Or good things that happened which otherwise wouldn’t have.

I’ve been out for over a decade.

Some of mine:

Learnt to drive
Got a full time permanent job
Sent my daughter to university
Went to nursing school
Learnt to dance

I might have a lot of trauma, unbelievable family problems & some people hate me.


But life is ultimately better and full of possibilities.

Within the 1st 6 months after leaving, I was promoted to an administrative position in my federal agency.

Received an MPA (could have never done this as a Mormon because of the time it was taking me to be in the Bishoric, etc)

Excelled in powerlifting like never before - all my lifts were better than when on the Y powerlifting team.

Took up the hobbies of back packing (through hiking), bicycling, and gardening (all of which I never had time for)

Built/framed a large addition to my home, built a 30x60 work shop, and bought/remodeled several rental properties.

I couldn't have done any of this as a Mormon. Being a Mormon sucks the life out of you and is very limiting! I hope Mormons are taking the opportunity to breathe some fresh air these days...life offers so much happiness. There is no reason to fill your life with the gruel of a life-sucking cult. If you are a Mormon reading this, please wake up. You've been indoctrinated! Wake up.

A balanced budget now that I don't pay tithing.

I learned to have sex and not propose immediately thereafter.

That was GREAT!

Myself, I was thinking in a different area.

First, I raised my twins by myself and kept the house with very little help from him as I chose not to get divorced as I was too broken to deal with it.

I learned that my husband is okay as he is, as a gay man. This board helped me a lot with this.

I learned I didn't have to respect the GAs. Even though I didn't believe in the lds church anymore, I still thought I had to respect the lds leaders. This board helped me with that.

I forgave my "husband" and allow him to live here in the house I kept. He pays the bills now.

I somehow made it here without committing suicide.

I reconnected with my old nonmormon boyfriend from when I was age 20 and we have been in a relationship for 15 years now.

I had sex with a straight man, the boyfriend above. I waited 27 years to have sex with him the first time.



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The book, Plural Bride to Be, is on Kindle. It's selling very well, especially now while so many are staying home and catching up on reading time.

I also finished college, taught school for over thirty years, and stayed happily married for over fifty years. I raised two children and didn't take them to church. My two delightful grandchildren also don't go to any church.

I served in the US Navy. Never would have done that if I still bought into the "Satan controls bodies of water" bunk.

I earned a Bachelor's Degree from a REAL university, not BYU-I.

I was published in a literary journal. I didn't receive money for it and it was a journal published by my college, but a first publishing is still a first publishing.

I was an editor for a small literary journal in another class I took. Mormonism crushes any creativity that isn't serving Mormonism alone.

I became more willing to call out authorities behaving badly. I never agreed with the Mormon idea of "obey, even when you know it's wrong" anyway.

I'm like you.

My first published work was a chapter of my book in a literary journal.

I'm glad mormonism is no longer crushing your creativity.

I think I'd be in a padded cell if I hadn't left it.

-Got married to a Catholic divorcee
-Raised 2 kids away from religion
-Never subjected my family to the cult...and there was some
pressure to do so.



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Got back into community college with a certificate in film.