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Date: August 09, 2020 05:35PM
Hujo2, I've gone back and forth about giving you the following advice. But it's good advice, and IMO advice you desperately need. So here goes:
I totally get the raging hormones. We've all been there. At your age, sex is constantly on your mind. I get that.
BUT...when you repeatedly talk about "getting laid," you are inadvertently turning your potential partner into a "thing." No woman, or young woman, wants to be thought of as a thing. She is not there just for you to get your pleasure.
Right now you are thinking, but we will both have fun! And my blunt, honest answer to that is, probably not. If it's the woman's first time, it will be at least somewhat painful for her, especially in the hands of an amateur. And that is exactly what you are -- an amateur. You have no idea what you will be doing. If you last longer than ten seconds your first time around, I'd be shocked. Ten seconds will be enough for you to climax, but it won't be even close to enough for your girlfriend to climax. Not...even...close. So, not much fun for her. Maybe no fun at all. Now if she loves you, or is in love with you, that would make a huge difference. See where I'm going with this?
Sex is a complex set of skills that takes a while to learn and a long time to master. As a beginner, you are not going to have much to offer your partner unless she is mad crazy about you. Even then...
So please show your future partner some respect. Stop talking about "getting laid." She is, and will be, a feeling, thinking human being, and she deserves to have some fun as well.
Honestly the best thing that you could do in High School is to get as much experience as you can short of having sex. Learn how to kiss. Women love a good kisser! (This alone would make you the talk of your high school among the young women.) Learn how to touch a woman, so that she sighs with pleasure. This could even be a touch to the forearm or neck. In time, learn how to make her climax without ever getting her clothes off -- yes, it can be done. That will take good communication skills because you will need to listen to your girlfriend's feedback about what feels good and what doesn't. And that will be different for every woman.
In short, use this time to learn and master sub-skills that will come in very, very handy for you one day.
Do you remember your first football game? Did your coach just throw you out on the field, or did he expect you to learn some fundamentals first? That is what I referring to -- learning the fundamentals. Knowing the fundamentals will pay off for you in the long run. Okay?