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Date: August 19, 2020 10:54AM
Being very discriminating can be a compliment referring to having good taste; not accepting less than the best.
Important to surround yourself with proper discrimination, then?
But the other side of the coin? How to deal with the judgementalists with an agenda? Like, say, many "very superior" Mormons.
People label you for a reason. If they don't know what you are, they don't know how to discriminate against you and that just won't do. They like you as a well defined package in transparent wrapping all tied up with a bow, categorized, and ready to be placed in the proper slot. And so many slots for Exmos to be shoved into. Heathens---the lot! No morals whatsoever. Right?
So what to do about the judgement? Keep 'em guessing? Be a moving target? Never take off more than one glove, like Gypsy Rose Lee? Cards to the chest! They aren't really sure what to do with you when you are a mystery.
However--Some of us had elements that could not be hidden. Sitting ducks. Mystery impossible. We were found out before the game had even begun. To avoid judgement there surfaced a big temptation then to try to prove "we are still good people even though we are not Mormons." We may say that we still have good values--again, "even though we are not Mormons"---thereby reinforcing their own conceit about such things as we demean ourselves by aiding their judgement as we claim to be "as good as them still."
"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man." George Bernard Shaw
Like someone of a certain race taking advantage of being able to pass for another as happened in olden times, like gays who pride themselves on being able to pass for straight, and so many wanting to fit enough that they held themselves to another's standard that should have been no standard at all.
If you like a good tangle, then lay your cards on the table. But you better have all aces or a full flush. Even then, though, Mormons will always have the Joker who is wild tucked into the sleeve of their garments, the trump card, and they will play it---never knowing that you had already won long ago, cuz, like Leonard Cohen . . .
"I'm leaving the table. I'm out of the game. I don't know the people in your picture frame."
Unreasonable. It's a thing. A good thing.