Mother Who Knows
Date: January 14, 2021 01:30AM
Be true. Be real.
If being polite reflects who you are, give them "I-messages", and don't confront the Mormons at all. You can't make Mormons understand, so give up. Never debate with Mormons, because you can't reason with lies.
Rehearse a few simple one-sentence "I-messages", like a script. For example:
"I've learned too much about the Mormon church, and I can't unlearn what I know." I say this if Mormons start questioning me. It's the truth. I was sad to discover that I had been living in a hoax cult. I could never go back--ever.
"I prayed about it, and got the answer that the Mormon church isn't true." My ex-Mormon cousins say this a lot, and they still are on good terms with Mormons. Mormons don't argue with this logic, because it's their own testimony-story.
"I'm not a Mormon anymore." My favorite. I officially resigned, so I can say this. Always remember, you don't owe anyone an explanation! If you start explaining, you just give Mormons fuel to start trying to convince you that you're wrong.
"We're Lutherans now." My ex-Mormon sons say this, and the Mormons have backed off completely, yet they have tons of Mormon friends. They live the same "wholesome" lifstyle, and they go to Lutheran service at Christmas and Easter, ski and play most Sundays, and they don't force their kids into any religion.
Say whatever suits your stance with religion, and your lifestyle. Never explain. Never apologize for using your right to religious freedom. Mormons are in the wrong, to harrass you and put you down. When they knock on your door, uninvited, they are trespassing, and you have a right to handle this any way you want, including calling the police, if you have to.
--A formal "no soliciting" sign helps a lot.
--If you can see the missionaries at your door, don't answer.
--Having a big dog helps. (Though she is very sweet)
--Having a man in the house helps. When my little boys grew into big football players, the Mormons stopped harassing us.
Mormons will shun you, depending on what they feel like doing, in the moment. The Mormon ward members shunned me because I quit all my callings. They didn't care that I had a serious, long-term disease. At first, I cried when my ward and stake shunned me, but now I actually like being shunned. Who wants nasty people like that in your life? Concentrate on the GOOD ones--they outnumber the Mormons.
The harassment didn't stop until I formally resigned from the Mormon cult, by mail, following the instructions on this website.
Try to not let the Mormon rudeness rub off onto you. Don't swear at them. If you can't think of anything to say, just look at them as if they are crazy, and just walk away. My former (high society) MIL would say, in a neutral, dismissive tone, "Welll...." as she walked away.
They aren't worth the bother.