Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: February 05, 2021 06:06AM
This has happened to me quite a few times. My children and my friends who talk of such things have also lost friends over extreme differences of opinion. These relationships can change, as opinions change.
I have some shallow friends, as well as deeper relationships. Mormons and other extremists can be good tennis players, hiking companions, volunteers, and share many interests with you--but there's still that gap between you.
The deeper relationships, such as with family members, life-long friends, romantic partners, are far more complicated.
I had a horrible time at the beginning of the pandemic, because I was trying to figure out where I stood with my political beliefs, then I got a cancer scare, then people started to die of covid. There were some other problems, too.
I decided to face the problems that I HAD to face, and to do something about them. The other problems, such as politics, false information, people not wearing masks and not believing there was such a thing as covid, I had to take a break from.
I did "take a break", and told some extremist friends that I wasn't in good health, and couldn't talk for very long, and couldn't get upset (my blood pressure was through the roof.). I didn't watch TV for several months. Even the loud, in-your-face commercials were upsetting.
This "personality-cult" politics also reminds us of the cult we just left. It triggers my Mormon PTSD. There is nothing you can do to convince people they are being lied to or brainwashed--nothing. We have to just let them go for a while. Maybe time, knowledge, and experience will teach them something, but maybe not.
My one Mormon child and her Mormon family wouldn't allow me to talk about religion to them at all, and I had to watch my grandchildren cry on Sundays and hate church, and not know why they hated church so much. I had to watch adults brainwash and bully the ones I love!
One of my sons and his family are right-wing republicans. Those grandchildren have Mormon grandparents and other relatives, who get around them with NO MASKS, all the time. The grandparents have covid, and my little ones are in quarantine for being exposed. Yeah--I do not like those people much these days. I feel that they are selfish and don't care about my grandkids or anyone else at all. All I could do is stop going to family parties, where the anti-maskers were, not eat, be extra careful around those exposed grandchildren--and wear a mask to protect my self and my other family members.
An elderly neighbor man and wife both died of covid, and that same day, an old friend dropped by to see me, came into my house, not wearing a mask, and expressed those anti-scientific views, saying that everyone was over-reacting to covid. She said old people were dying of other ailments, and were falsely blaming it on "covid", which was just an ordinary cold. I lost it, and burst out crying, and said that I couldn't see her until I "got over it." I still haven't "gotten over it."
It's extremely difficult to relate to or communicate with someone who is living in an alternate reality. This is why our Nation is so divided right now. This is why so many of our Mormon relationships end when we leave the cult. Sad.