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Tevai
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Date: November 18, 2021 04:09PM
The phrase "being religious" can apply to an immense span of philosophical belief and non-belief (and most definitely can, and often does, include atheism) so parsing this out can be difficult.
I grew up in a family which, at least during my lifetime, accepted reincarnation as a solid, virtually self-evident, fact of life--something along the same belief lines as "believing in gravity." (Although my maternal family had previously identified with middle-of-the-road Protestant Christian beliefs when they were back in the American Midwest and South, once they settled in southern California, their beliefs modified quite substantially-- mostly, in my maternal family, to some permutation of Hinduism/Vedanta/metaphysics.)
When I was converting to Judaism, and then for a few years afterward (when I was a regular speaker to Jewish audiences explaining why non-Jews sought conversion to Judaism, and explaining how the process of conversion to Judaism worked because, at that time, many born Jews did not know), I fairly quickly became aware that some percentage of Jews by choice [means: converts to Judaism] would, at some point, reveal--on a one-by-one basis--that they had Holocaust memories, some of them extremely detailed.
One of my fellow members of the Jewish Speakers Bureau could explain, in amazing detail, exactly what the interior of a Nazi gassing van looked like as it was driving a load of Jews from their village to the place where their then-dead bodies would be dumped. (She had been a child at that time, and she was about what we would call kindergarten age, and this was apparent because she had been learning her Hebrew letters by tracing wooden cut-outs of those letters with her hands.)
There were many other non-Jews with Holocaust memories as well. By that time in post-WWII history, I think most rabbis who individually often functioned as the first Jewish contact for non-Jews who wanted to convert were fully aware of, and accepting of, the apparent fact that many of those who sought to convert to Judaism had been, last time around, Jews who had been murdered during the Holocaust and who now wanted to be accepted back, into the Jewish people. The Jewish word for reincarnation is "gilgul," and I think it would be fair to say that a large percentage of Jews, regardless of what vocabulary they use, believe that gilgul is a reality.
On a practical basis, if a Jew does believe in gilgul (or even thinks that it might be a practical possibility, even if they don't actually "believe"), the question becomes: How do I prepare myself for my next life (after this one) which will most beneficially match with my interests, strengths, inclinations, and weaknesses?
If something like this is how you approach your own aging and death, then your pragmatic outlook will do a whole lot to, in a very positive way, carry you through.
I once read about an elderly woman who had no musical talent at all, yet she spent a considerable amount of her limited finances on music lessons (piano and voice, as I remember) which she practiced "religiously," every day without fail. When she would be asked why she did this, since she couldn't really afford the lessons and she admittedly had "no talent at all," she would answer: "Because next time around, I want to be a [musical] [star]."
If I have my druthers, next time around for me: I want to be born into a loving, upper middle class, Jewish family who will support my individual strong points, and will help me strengthen my weak points, as I am being normally raised as their Jewish child. Parents who will allow me (emotionally, culturally, financially) to be the best I can be in whatever I think is the optimum right choice for me at that time. In the USA right now, there are millions of Jewish kids just like this, and I would very much like to be one of them next time around.
To answer the question: "Does being religious help dealing with death and aging?," my answer is: It often, and usually strongly, depends on which specific religion is under consideration. Some of them: Yes, absolutely. Others of them: Absolutely NO, no way at all!
I don't think it is "being religious" which often counts (in Judaism, there are huge numbers of atheistic, totally non-religious, Jews....plus an entire, well organized, atheistic Jewish "denomination").
Instead, I think this question is often dependent on the specific contents, and the surrounding culture, of the individual religion under consideration.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 11/18/2021 04:18PM by Tevai.