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cludgie
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Date: April 20, 2022 01:34PM
My über-Mormon older sister is/can be a very toxic and controlling person, and she has tried a good part of my married life to peel my wife away from me based on my having left the church. But she is also a Hannity/Tucker person, and the two entertainers help mold her world outlook. Since my wife is a (rare) very liberal-but-active Mormon, my sister can only believe that I am a toxic male who, since leaving the church, has adopted godless liberalism, and is desperately trying to recruit my wife by demanding that she drop conservatism and adopt my liberal outlook. That mindset, and of course, the attempt to vilify me, makes me angry, and I express it from time to time. Also, she and her husband will go on about weird stuff, things like how "Biden raised the price of gasoline!". So two times now, I have reminded them that it is impossible for Biden or any other head of state in the world to control the prices of commodities, whether they be petroleum or pork bellies. This last time--Easter Sunday, when I mistakenly accepted an invitation to spend Easter dinner with them--I again corrected my BIL with the same fact, and he threatened to kick me out of the house. You know... On Easter. (In retrospect, I should have accepted the invitation to leave, and should have announced in a loud voice to everyone that, like Alan Rickman in "Galaxy Quest," "I'm going to find a pub!")
A typical Mormon thing: Of of my sister's repetitious, personal attacks, one is to paint me as "angry" for standing up for my beliefs, whilst she bangs on about the pureness of Mormonism and her own beliefs. I know a lot of you recognize this as typically Mormon. She identifies my wife as weak and easy to manipulate, and almost certainly conservative, if allowed to be; I, on the other hand, I have become a controlling husband, i.e., liberal, and all that. I love animals and nature, cats and dogs, believe in animal rights and preserving nature, a fact that she finds disturbing. I feed the squirrels in my yard, for god's sake, and that is just wrong--"they are RODENTS!" Things like that. She hates any references to animal rights, destroying woodland (a huge hobby of loggers and land developers here in the Pacific NW), dangerous farming techniques, etc. She demands that my demure wife not listen to me, but to her. I have spoken to my adult daughter and my wife about cutting it off with my sister, at least on a social level, and they think I'm entering dangerous territory. But, seriously, I need a rest and some distance.
Chime in: Some here know me. Do you have me pegged as "toxic?" "Angry?" "Libtard?" (Actually, I'm proud when people call me "libtard." I'm quick to tell them that they're showing how they probably don't read and/or are perhaps under-educated. It's mean, but it works.) I need a break, and possibly a bit of a nap and a juice box. Since my sister is my only sibling, is it wrong or dangerous to put a distance between the two of us? Any advice how to do it the right way?
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 04/20/2022 01:37PM by cludgie.