Posted by:
knotheadusc
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Date: October 31, 2022 02:24AM
About ten days ago, my husband was on a business trip. I got an email from my aunt with the lyrics to the song "Bill" from Show Boat. She must have thought they were perfect, as my husband's name is Bill, and it's a sweet, romantic song. I've known that song for some years. Jane Monheit did it for her album, "Taking a Chance on Love", and I've been wanting to do it, too. So I recorded the song and set it to photos.
Bill decided to send it to his very LDS younger daughter, who lives in Provo with her husband and kids, and is recovering from a very sheltered upbringing with her toxic mom. Some of you know that for a long time, Bill and his daughters didn't speak at all. As it is now, the younger one has re-established a relationship with him, but her older sister still lives with their mom and has nothing to do with Bill at all.
As Bill and his daughter have been talking, he's learned about what went on during those years they were estranged. Ex made Bill's daughters drop out of high school and take college courses so they could get loans. Then she took whatever excess money came from the loans and used it to support the household. Younger daughter recently paid back the loan, but has no degree. And after Bill sent her the video I made, it became pretty clear that she hasn't learned basic computing skills.
I think she loved the video and some of the others on my channel, especially since I usually set the music to photos or videos, and for so long, she was completely denied all of those references. She told Bill that she used to have a photo of him that she slept with, but her mother found it and confiscated it, so for many years, she had no idea what Bill looked like. She was told a lot of lies about us, which doesn't surprise me... but apparently, her mother also treated her daughters with Bill like maids (she has three other kids with two other husbands).
The funny thing is, for so many years, the LDS church was used as a parental alienation tool. Because Bill left the church, Ex would tell the girls that leaving the church made him unworthy of them. But then, years later, when the church became too influential over her daughters, Ex decided to leave it. She wanted younger daughter to leave with her, but instead, younger daughter got help and support from the church and some really good members helped her move out of her mother's clutches. Ex let her go to BYU with nothing but her clothes, but it was church members who helped her with everything from giving her sheets for her bed to driving her to school from the airport. Ex's response to that was to overdose.
Anyway... younger daughter now has a music calling at church, so she was especially interested in the videos. She had a lot of questions. It made me feel sad that I couldn't be there to help teach her some of these things when she was growing up. But maybe I can introduce her to things like Garage Band and iMovie or similar, and she can make some videos of her own. I think she got a kick out of the photos in "Bill", all of which show different sides of her dad that she never got to see. Even the ones that show him drinking beer. ;)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaVbErlfutwYounger daughter has grown into a very kind, lovely young woman, in spite of her mother's influence. She's a lot like her dad and his mom, another person Ex hated and wouldn't let her get to know. And if she had been allowed to know them, I suspect she wouldn't be living in Provo... or LDS. I am, however, very grateful to the kind church members who helped her when we couldn't.