Posted by:
Silly Me
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Date: February 15, 2023 12:22PM
summer Wrote:
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> >> His post was mild and aligned well with
> observations I've had about frumpy sister
> missionaries too.
>
> Frumpy, oh my word, yes. That was my biggest
> observation of them at the Washington, D.C. temple
> open house. These attractive young women were
> dressing like they were 80 years old. Actually,
> I've seen 80-year-olds dressing better than that.
> Their dresses and jumpers were overly long, too
> large, ill-fitting, droopy, and frumpy in the
> extreme. The male missionaries were fine, dressed
> in business wear. But the females looked like
> their moms had escaped from a FLDS compound, and
> never taught their daughters how to dress for
> modern life.
This sister missionary 'shaming' post represents more of the same kind of thing as posted and removed by messygoop. Since the original thread was unfortunately deleted, I will use this second post to further clarify my pointed objections to this kind of RfM commentary.
First, I am not a troll. I am an ex-Mormon who despises Mormonism as much as anyone else here, if not more. However, it is one thing to criticize and attack Mormonism for its doctrines, policies, beliefs, principles, practices, etc., and the leaders that support such matters, but quite another to ridicule and marginalize a few individual Mormons one encounters solely because of their unusual and 'unacceptable' appearance or demeaner.
In the messygoop thread, there was no offensive interaction involving proselytizing, and no interference at all with messygoop's own shopping agenda. These missionaries were only going about their personal business on P-day, without bothering anyone. The only noted exception was messygoop's suggestion of a minor "rudeness" offense, that he himself deemed "silly," that was at worst incidental and trivial.
I am reminded of the bullying scene in the movie "Witness" with Harrison Ford:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DkDGCI9fkcNow, of course, this is an extreme comparison, where unlike messygoop's account, an actual offensive physical confrontation was involved. However, one can imagine a prior scene where the townspeople meet as a group outside of the Amish presence, to ridicule and make fun of their appearance and lifestyle. Such group think and group talk would of itself marginalize the Amish community, and through the force of ridicule, indirectly encourage adverse treatment of individuals that might be encountered, as happened in the movie.
Now, to be clear, I am all for noting peculiarities in a group of people, and even having a joke or two at their expense. (Note the musical, The Book of Mormon) After all, that is what comedians routinely do. Moreover, I am O.K. with marginalizing Mormonism and Mormons generally for what they teach and believe that is contrary to a modern, social values. So, then, what is my problem?
My problem is two-fold: First, in the messygoop case, appearance ridicule was directed to specific individuals who were doing nothing offensive, except existing. This strikes me as a kind of dehumanizing reaction that sister missionaries (and others) do not deserve, absent their own personal, offensive behavior. Consider a transgender person whose transition, for whatever reason, is obvious by their appearance. One may well believe that gender identity change is morally wrong, or misguided, and publicly proclaim such gender-related views as a matter of free speech. But that is different from pointing out specific transgender persons and ridiculing them, and making fun of them, for their peculiar appearance. For me, a line has been crossed.
Second, this kind of tactic refocuses attention from Mormon doctrines and principles which are directly harmful to others to physical appearances that are not. Such a tactic makes the accuser seem lame and small in such accusations. I would like to think that RfM is better than that, but so far--from the responses to this thread--such a hope seems naive.