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Date: June 14, 2023 09:41PM
I have received the sudden and very sad news that long time RfM poster and board moderator Tevai has recently passed away.
Tevai was an interesting, friendly poster as well as a fair and helpful mod. She enjoyed a full and productive life which she shared with all of us here, to our benefit.
Tevai last posted on May 2 and, true to form, she wrote about deep issues that were important to her and revealed her thoughtful nature and endless compassion. Tevai came across RfM around 2004 and said she found it much more interesting than the Mormon boards so, fortunately for us, she stuck around and participated regularly. Eventually, Tevai became an RfM moderator. In carrying out those tasks she was always reliable, helpful and considerate.
She was well informed and engaged, knowledgeably discussing major social issues that were important to her such as civil rights, ethnicity, racism and gender identity, expressing pleasure at what she saw as progress in the hard fought battles for recognition, equality and personal autonomy. She was also interested in and knowledgeable about various religions.
Tevai was generous in sharing pieces of her full and interesting life with us. In particular, she described her conversion to Judaism and offered compelling insights into her journey. She was always eager to learn about any subject and we benefited from her in-depth analysis and knowledge in many areas. She expressed excitement at reading something new from fellow posters, including the likely useless fact that the Queen of England was a Druid, as well as the existence of Morris dancers in the UK, just some of life’s little details that Tevai was always so delighted to learn at RfM. Tevai had been involved with the entertainment industry and often shared intriguing snippets about some of her experiences with the glamour and glitz of that world.
Tevai had a joy of learning that was a delight to observe. Her own words give us a glimpse into her dynamic presence and inquiring mind. In January this year the poster GNPE asked “What are our favorite diversions?” to which Tevai replied:
“Learning and exploring things and subjects and peoples and places I am (or have just become, for whatever reason) interested in.
“For most of my life I have been going from one thing to another after something catches my attention. Could be a passing reference in a commercial, or a book or other publication, or it could be something someone says (not necessarily directly to me, but I heard it).
“As a result, I have (since I was about ten years old) accumulated an expansive and eclectic collection of books, periodicals, discarded scripts, and handouts from various sources. … I continue to pursue answers to the questions that continue to come up in my own life, as I continue to learn.”
Tevai’s joy and humour were evident in her response below to the poster praydude (an exmo married to a Jewish woman) who once wrote:
“I tell my wife that the Jews must take pity on us and that to marry a mormon is a way of doing Tzedakah.” "(Tzedakah in Judaism refers to performing deeds of justice – commonly viewed as charity or philanthropy)."
Tevai replied, with delight:
“I am truly laughing out loud. This is one of the funniest things I've ever read on RfM.
… because of your post I will ALWAYS remember that marrying a mormon [would an exmo like you count?] may VERY possibly be an important form of doing tzedakah.
Thank you, praydude! I will remember this post always.”
Tevai loved many activities, hiking among them, and she couldn’t resist collecting trash along the way, doing her bit for the environment. Her partner said that Tevai “always told me to leave an area cleaner than it was before we got there and that we should leave other lives better than they had been.” That is a succinct and admirable life motto and undoubtedly Tevai achieved it.
SL Cabbie, a former poster who is now also sadly departed, remarked once about leaving the Mormon church that “No matter how pathological the relationship, the separation represents a loss, and losses must be grieved...” to which Tevai, a nevermo, replied “Absolutely true” in her usual insightful way.
A number of years ago in a good-bye thread to our poster Eloher, Tevai wrote “Know just how much you made the world a better place for a bunch of people you knew in person...and for us all. You will be missed by so many.”
Tevai’s own generous words to a poster she called friend can be echoed back to express how so many will feel about her loss. Tevai, you indeed “made the world a better place” and will be “missed by so many”.
We will remember YOU always, Tevai, for your compassion, insight and joy of learning and sharing and helping.
Tevai’s partner said that “For many years she found [RfM] to be the most interesting place in town. Thank you all for making her life happier.” It is lovely to know that Tevai felt that way. I’m grateful for all the times I responded to Tevai’s posts and interacted with her on the board, and sorry for times I meant to but didn’t do so. I also very much regret now not having the opportunity to connect with Tevai in person some day, as I had always hoped.
I’m sure we all greatly appreciate Tevai for giving her time to be a helpful moderator and for her warm, friendly presence at RfM, showing kindness to all.
I wish to extend most heartfelt condolences to Tevai’s partner who undoubtedly is deeply mourning his great loss. I hope he knows that the thoughts of many are with him and Tevai’s family at this most sad time.
Thank you Tevai. For everything.
“Yehi zichra baruch” - “May her memory be a blessing.”
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/14/2023 09:47PM by Nightingale.