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elderolddog
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Date: December 04, 2023 02:12PM
I had what I believe was a very typical mormon upbringing for that era, but it had one significant divergence, in that I wasn't in the heart of the morridor, where when puberty raised its helmeted head, 90% of your high school student body was also mormon. My estimate is 15% mormon in my high school.
One thing I did note as a pre-mission, mostly pubescent, 1950s-1960s teen was that the mormon girls I dated were a lot randier, and it wasn't even close! I had dates with four non-mormon girls and never once tried to go past first base.
As good mormon boys, we "knew" that in "running the bases" (a baseball analogy in which 1st base was kissing [no tongue], 2nd base was french-kissing and boob-fondling, 3rd base was the famous one-handed bra removal (a lost art), dry-humping, with frothing at the mouth and crotch, and crossing home plate was full on sex), that if you didn't hit it out of the park, you both remained chaste; no gum was chewed...unwrapped, maybe, but not chewed.
(As for the other analogy, the 2"x4" with a nail hole, no nails were used during the pounding...)
It was my experience as a high school virgin that mormon girls were "easy"; 2nd base was acceptable, and I even had one Laurel (Judy C.) who 'forced' me on herself... Oh, the agony!
"Gum" remained unchewed as long as there was no textbook sex. I don't know what would have been the results if we'd known about 'soaking.' I've never conducted a survey, but I never met a mormon girl who considered dry-humping had robbed them of their chastity.
I had one weird experience at the Y. I had two dates with a Canadian girl named Wendy (No, it wasn't that Wendy, and believe me, I checked with Google...), both of which ended with vigorous dry-humping.
The first time, when I drove her back to her apartment, she said that we shouldn't have gone so far, and she asked that we pray for strength. I, staring at her bosom in post-coital bliss, readily agreed.
We went out a second time, ostensibly just to get some ice cream, and again ended up occupying the entire front seat, clothedly pounding away, with her just as eager and thrusting as me...
And then, when I dropped her off at her place, she again wanted to pray for forgiveness and strength. I considered that to be hypocrisy of the worst kind, and I wasn't going to hang out with someone so unprincipled!!
One observation regarding RMs and a BYU marriage: An RM at the Y (I can't speak to other situations) can't be certain who is in charge of agreeing to get married, the brain or the reproductive system.
I think there is a huge gap between my generation and even the kids born in the 80s, with the difference that exists now being basically unimaginable. Were we hypocrites while the youth of today are open and honest?
Not that it matters; the earth's population continues to grow, so nature doesn't seem to care.