A dark dour curtain, sliding smoothly
Wraps loosely, but securely, hiding light.
The cut off soul insists it live alone,
As if penance will erase the blight.

A shattered heart's many pieces lie flung
Where the sudden blow caught it unaware.
The piecs chatter of their pain and grief.
One betrayal becomes multiple fare.

The grief sits wrapped in bitter loneliness
Desperate to break through to new happiness.
But first comes suffering for suff'ring's own sake;
Maudlin is as maudlin does, tears ease stress.

Twice bitten, twice prone; twice hurting, twice alone.








Those of you who have been to Mormon funerals know how the deceased's TBM loved ones prattle on about the eventual reunion.

As an exmo atheist I have accepted that I'll never see the deceasedd ever again.

It sucks.

Having to do it twice, once for Alzheimer's and now for death, isn't much fun, either.

Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies.




Saucie Rios
1944 - 2024

I am deeply saddened to read this. Saucie was a great woman, beautiful inside and out.

I am very sorry to hear of this. My sincere condolences for your loss.

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> As an exmo atheist I have accepted that I'll never
> see the deceasedd ever again.

I think the soul continues, just maybe not in the way the LDS thinks it does. I've spoken to a number of people, including atheists, who report having NDEs. The interest for me is not all the tunnels of light and the visions of Heaven or Hell etc, but the fact that so many of them report leaving the body and seeing what it is around them when they are dying/dead. In some cases the descriptions of events going on around them are remarkably accurate.

I can't really see any evolutionary or even psychological advantage that these out of the body experiences would confer on the dying/dead. I can see how visions of Heaven might perform that role by comforting someone. But I don't know how seeing your dead body below you would comfort anyone, or watching people trying to resuscitate you.

Saucie was an atheist and would likely ask you to remove your NDE junk from her memorial thread after first calling you everything but a child of god.

This thread is not the place.

I was thinking the same thing.

I agree Beth

My condolences.

I’ve been a caretaker for my Mom. It’s hard. I wish you the best.

I’ve shared this song with people that come across that have had to deal with Alzheimer’s in their life. It was written, and performed by a very cool, non-religious person.

https://thedellow.bandcamp.com/track/everything-happened-just-right

I don’t know if that link will come through.

This is such sad sad news. I have so many fond memories of her. She had such a great sense of humor. Thank you so much for letting us know.

I enjoyed her here very much. RIP, Saucie. She was a jewel. I'll remember her fondly.

Saucie was saucy! She was acerbic, honest, funny, loving, generous and kind. She didn’t suffer fools or BS. I’m so glad she left TSCC. I’m so glad she was here.



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She loved The Elements

https://youtu.be/Gs069dndIYk?feature=shared

Most of us here never met her in person but still feel like she was our friend.

That's exactly how I feel. Terribly sad news. RIP.

Shinehah and Soft Machine, I never met her in person, either, yet she touched my life profoundly.

OP, I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for the poem. Thank you for letting us know.

Saucie used to talk me down, and she would lift me up. She’d tell me when I was being gaslit by my family. I can’t really collect my thoughts right now.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I've followed the board on and off since 2012. This news makes me feel so sad. Death comes for us all, but Alzheimers is a miserable thief indeed.

So sad. The few posts I read had either my jaw or me on the floor or both. So sorry for your loss. The poem is as stunning as it is piercing. Funny what a great paint brush pain is.

I'm very sorry for your terrible double loss. She was a remarkable person.

Saucie was a gem. Thank you for that lovely, thoughtful poem.

She gave us much, and those memories will live on in all of us.

Peace

I am so sorry too. It's the toughest of tough things to lose a precious person.

I appreciate the thoughts other posters have expressed on this thread and second them. Saucie was a bright light here, so witty, wise and wonderful.

She made us laugh.

And think.

That's a lot to accomplish.

Thank you for letting us know. Take care.

I am so sorry. She was a light here for many.

I am so profoundly sorry for your loss.

Saucie was an amazing writer, an unmatched talent, and a hysterical read.

One of my favorite Saucie posts regarded her former Bishop.

"My old bishop had the self-control of a spastic jellyfish so when he got angry about something he would give the offending person the finger"

She is missed.

I am so sorry for your loss. Loss seems to find all of us.

I will most likely follow the same pattern with my husband but with an extra step.

1. Divorce due to beginning dementia (after 40 years)
2. Full blown Alzheimers
3. Death from Alzheimers

Kind of a waltz 3/4 step kind of thing.

Dealing with this now with my mom who was diagnosed last year, sorry you and yours had to go through this

NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! Goodbye Dear Saucie. My heart is broken. She was one of the only EXMO's from this board that I knew outside the board. She was one of a kind. Rest in Peace.


SadHeretic :'(