Posted by:
anonynon
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Date: March 18, 2024 02:12AM
Brother Of Jerry Wrote:
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> So you don’t like missionaries, and admit that
> demanding their first names is a
> passive-aggressive move to put them in their
> place.
>
> I think that could be interpreted as offensive.
> Same is true for the poster who
> passive-aggressively asks for a police officer’s
> first name, and if the officer doesn’t comply,
> the poster switches from passive-aggressive to
> active aggressive.
>
> In both cases, the subtext is hostility. And yes,
> people can reasonably take offense. Is this even
> remotely surprising?
Woah, hold on. You read subtext where there wasn't any.
I don't hate missionaries, I don't offer them a cold beverage passive aggressively, I do it because I care about them as humans, but I don't need their names and don't want information about their church. It's just an act of kindness. How did you read hatred and aggression into that.
When did I admit to demanding their first names? Their names are none of my business.
If you read my comment correctly, the point was that it's a rude policy that missionaries are forced to ask people about their voices and sex lives. If someone was in my home and spotted my coffee machine or wine bottles, or if I was smoking (I don't smoke this is just hypothetical), or met my partner with whom I lived outside of marriage, the missionaries are going to talk about it. It's their training to get all up in someone's business. So if an investigator has to answer to the missionaries about private things, a question to the missionaries about their first names seems really minor by comparison.
I will never be in this position. I do not hate missionaries, I do feel for them. I'm not passive aggressive, I say what I mean, and now I'm saying you attacked me unnecessarily. I've posted here quite a bit on and off for at least 15 years, and I've never behaved in the way you accused.
For the record, I'd never ask a police officer for their first name, nor would I ask a teacher/professor, doctor or basically any professional, or anyone who introduced themselves to me as Mr/Ms/Mrs LAST NAME. That said, I was raised by parents who encouraged first name use to their friends and by my friends. My friends' parents were the same way. So if someone introduces themselves as Judy Jones, I'm going to instinctively call them Judy, if they introduced themselves as Ms. Jones, I'm using that and not asking for their first name. I prefer to be called by my first name and not Ms. Anon. It feels cold, to me, personally, not forcing that on others. So first names don't seem like a big deal to me, but I also have enough respect and decorum to not ask for them.