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Anon cuz ima Loser?
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Date: April 13, 2024 05:34PM
My long term relationship came to an end about two years ago, and I did not feel ready to re-enter the dating scene until recently.
As a result I have not asked a woman out for, literally, 30+ years.
I understand that things have changed since I last asked a woman out in the last millennium, but I'm wondering how I should feel about this...
Two months ago I bit the bullet, and asked a woman out. Someone I used to work with briefly. During the time we were colleagues I thought we hit it off. And although my radar has been out of service for a long time, the last time we spoke I thought for sure she was sending me signals (dropping into the conversation how long she's been divorced, and what her favorite type of restaurant is...)
I didn't have a phone number, so I sent an invite through Messenger. Is Messenger a no-no for some reason?
I have no interest in dating apps, but if I understand dating apps correctly, it is very easy to just ignore anybody that you are not interested in. Has this seeped into dating culture in general?
I ask because I never heard back from the lady in question.
Being unconnected on FB, I know my message went into her message requests folder. When I didn't hear back, I asked a mutual FB friend to send her a message to check her requests folder.
When I never heard back after that, I emailed her work email (last resort) to ask her to check her request folder.
But nothing. Two months of silence. Obviously the most obvious reason is that she's not interested, that I'm not as devastatingly handsome as I've always thought.
But Ladies, has it become the norm that if you are not interested you don't even bother with a "no thank you" and just ignore being asked out? Or should my feelings be a little hurt?
I'm asking this anonymously instead of asking people I know directly because *I think* the fact that I didn't even qualify for a rejection makes me look like a complete loser.