Posted by:
loveskids
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Date: July 23, 2011 02:37AM
I went to court this morning to put in stone custody and support. I have an attorney,he doesn't. He had paid an attorney for about 4 hours of service.I got to see all the paperwork for the first time. He refused to turn anything in until the 11th hour.So I'm reading a "report" he had his attorney,I suppose,write up. First paragraph...my wife left the Mormon church and I was stunned. Does he think anyone cares? I had to laugh,but that is where his mind is. Not on cleaning up his act so he can have overnights with the 2 kids. Because of the CPS report he only gets 5 hours on Sat. Every single time he screws up. Last week the kids were fighting in the car. So he stops the car(he's already yelling at them) gets out,and tries to open their door. So he can do what??? Scared them to death. They knew he would have hit them. He said it was the right way to handle it.
The report was so full of lies I was in a panic. He made our son out to be a violent,disturbed,trouble maker,poor student etc. It made me sick. Totally threw his own son under the bus to make him self look like the caring father. My attorney had to keep calming me down. But the judge went with the mediators recommendations of 5 hours on Sat. Plus he has to pay $1000. more a month than he wanted. My only happy moment.
He listed our daughter with a different middle name. Not even close. He said it was a type-o.Listed their date of adoptions 2 years later than they were. Where has this guy been?
We are doing great in our apt. Kids are in therapy and doing well. Ds is starting to tell me things his father did to him. He feels safe. What he tells me makes me sick. He has told his therapist much more than he told me. I mentioned the car incident (it had happened 2 days before therapy the week before) and she said "that must be why he wasn't doing well in our session.He was very distracted." The kids never ask for him. When he comes their is next to no physical contact. Ds won't even sit by him.
Which leads me to a question. How do I get the 3 of them to be more open with each other? To actually be able to hold hands and talk. I knew I needed to let them know it was okay with me that they love their dad. Didn't change anything. I want them,at least for now,to have some kind of relationship with him.I don't even want to look him in the eye,but I want something for them.