Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: July 25, 2011 04:35AM
Thanks for your post, Madame Radness. This was very tough for me to admit. When I resigned, I was shunned, and it was crazy-making , when former "friends" would look past me as though I was invisible, and not even give me a nod, or a word. I would see them honk to puck each other up for activities, for tennis, shopping, a movie, and I would no longer be included.
Maybe it is "sour grapes," but I don't think so. I went from disliking their rude behavior, to disliking them as people. You reached your conclusion quicker than I did, but it was very freeing to finally admit that I do not like these people. Even if they rushed to welcome me with open arms, it is too late. I have "grown", all right. I have grown impatient with rudeness. I have grown away from gossip, and bragging.
In a lot of instances, it is not "growing out of" friendships, but just changing. I hesitate to pass judgment that they are too petty and foolish for me. We're just different: I like my children, my career, science, poetry, reading, the newspaper, tennis, hiking, skiing, photography, and classical music. Not one Mormon ex-friend cares about even one of those things, and I don't care about designer shoes, redecorating houses, cars, the husband-wife relationship, missionary work, the temple, The Ensign, or pioneer trek.
Even one interest can create a friendship. I have tennis friends, book club friends, science geek friends at work, and chick-flick friends. Some of these friends disagree about politics, religion, marriage, kids, abortion, living together out of wedlock, etc, so we "agree to disagree" and these things are not an issue while we're together. Mormons seem unable to get off their soap box for more than a few minutes. They can preach to each other, and leave the rest of us alone.