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Date: July 25, 2011 02:08AM
In a discussion about the recent budget cuts in our ward, I mentioned that attendance was way down because no one likes Bishop Jackwagon. He's a arrogant, sarcastic bully who orders people around and has to have his way. He demands obedience. People are fed up with it and finding excuses to go to other wards or stay home entirely. TBM SIL (not the one getting married in Aug - an older one) told me that she thought the people of my ward needed to humble themselves and get back to church and accept that the bishop was called of God. Apparently, she feels that if you don't bend over and take whatever abuse that the bishop heaps on you, then you are full of pride and need to humble yourself and learn to take it. I wish I could have thought of the following response while still on the phone with her.
"Molly, you now live in state with few Mormons where the church isn't as well known as it is in California. You are also a school teacher. If you saw one of your fellow teachers picking on a student just because he was Mormon, what would you do? If the teacher was nasty to this student, always making him feel inadequate, always talking down to him...would you just blow it off? If you knew for sure it was because the kid was Mormon, would you tell the kid he needed to humble himself before that teacher because the teacher was an authority figure and get himself back to class? No? Well, why should I?"
"Why should I watch people being abused because they are Mormon and think there is some virtue in it? If the people in our ward weren't Mormon, they wouldn't be picked on by a Mormon bishop. Would you tell a Catholic school boy who was the victim of a pedophile priest to humble himself and get back to church WHERE THAT SAME PRIEST STILL PRESIDES? Emotional and spiritual abuse are also ABUSE. Why is being able to be treated badly just because I'm Mormon a virtue when the truth is, the abuser is wrong? What gives the bishop the right to behave in a way that disgraces his priesthood, disgraces the LDS church and hurts God's children...and why should I have to stand by and put up with it? That's not humility. That is participating passively in abuse and allowing someone who claims to represent Christ to disgrace his teachings and his position of authority in his church... and get away with it. It's no different that a mother who allows her husband to beat her children. She's a passive partner in the abuse because she allows it - she doesn't do anything to get out of the situation. Knuckling under to bullies isn't humility and it isn't anything to aspire to."
The worst part is, this used to be my most liberal Mormon SIL until she married her Nazi Mormon husband 5 years ago and moved out of state. She even lived with a guy for a while and got her belly button pierced. But then she got back under the Morg's brainwashing program and she is totally hard core now. Sigh.