Posted by:
lamedandy
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Date: November 03, 2010 01:07AM
You mentioned that you transferred to Utah for a job. Do you work for a large company with a good benefit package?
If you do, they probably offer 8 to 12 counseling sessions with a qualified licensed psychologist or licensed counselor for a low affordable co-pay just for situations like yours.
Contact your Human Resources Rep at work, tomorrow, and ask about it. You can say that you just need a little help adjusting to your relocating experience, although you really do not need to explain anything at all if you do not want to. Your employer is not allowed to know what your counseling was about.
If you do seek therapy without going through your employer, be absolutely certain this person is a board certified or licensed counselor or psycologist. There are lots of folk out there right now that call themselves things like "Life Coaches", that have no professional training and are not licensed-in fact they don't even have to have a High School Diploma & they can have an agenda of their own.
And, it goes without saying, to stay away from LDS Family Services.
You need professional guidance to learn how to tap into your own inner strength and power. It's there, inside you, but it appears that when you were growing up, no one helped you learn how to use it. You will not get very far in this adult world, if you do not let yourself use the phrase "No, I do not want to do that".
And, right now, Get a pad and pencil and write down what you want to say to them and read the words into their answering machine-
then, call that phone number those missionaries gave you and tell them that you have changed your mind and that they are to quit bothering you.-and do not try to "explain" why to them...EVER...just keep saying, "I have changed my mind, stop bothering me"...when they ask "Why" do not address the "Why" and repeat "I have changed my mind, stop bothering me"..over and over and over...broken record....do not change that "chant"
Don't answer the door or phone until you can met with a therapist who can help you practice what to do after that.
You Can Do This. I know you can! How do I know this...well, in reading your first post, you come across as someone well-educated and brave enough to pack up all her things and move to a new town... That took courage...so you know how to be brave!
Then treat yourself to a great movie this week, maybe eat out at a nice restaurant first... Look in the local newspapers for activities that interest you...pick something and go to it... Invite a co-worker to go to Happy Hour with you Friday after work....get creative...what do you want to learn?... Does your new community have a "Parks and Recreation"department, or does the local library offer activities...stop and think what is there to do around that town that has nothing to do with churches, but does throw you in with some smart and interesting people... and then go for it....