Posted by:
smile11
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Date: July 30, 2011 05:04AM
Hello. I am a nevermo female that has known many Mormons throughout my life. I stumbled upon this website when I ended up with a Mormon boyfriend and wanted to try and learn all I could about his religion. Converting is out of the question for me, as I am a liberal-minded, non-religious person. So we couldn't have been in it for the long haul. (We aren't together anymore because we are both moving away, but we still care about each other and we keep in touch as friends.)
The more that I looked through the stories on this website, the more I saw parallels between what people on here would say about how bad they felt as a Mormon and the things he would/does tell me when he feels down. The thing is, I came to see that most of these ex-mormons didn't realize until they got out of the church that it was the church that was causing these feelings. He often says things like this when he's upset:
"As a kid, I never had any friends. I always thought it was because I was a devilish freak."
"If anything bad happens to me, then somehow I'm at fault for it, or else it wouldn't have happened. Friends don't abandon you without reason. How else can you explain it?"
"I'm doing what I can with what I've got, and no matter how hard I try or how much I dream, I always fail or end up alone."
"I'm sorry if I'm annoying you. (He wasn't.) I'll try harder to keep my problems to myself."
"What do I know?"
His parents also divorced when he was young, so I know that the church might not be the root or the real cause of this. He comes from a very devout family, and he seems pretty entrenched in the church, but he has also told me that he doesn't like Utah Mormons because they act like they're better than everyone else, even other Mormons, and he feels that they give Mormonism a "bad name." He has also told me that it sickens him that he has seen so many corrupt priesthood holders and bishops that use their calling as a status boost for themselves.
What do you guys think? Do you think that if his church is causing him to feel this way, he will eventually realize it and leave? Or is it pretty uncommon for most Mormons to leave the church even after they've seen the truth?
Also, he is going to leave for his mission within the next few months or so. I'm secretly worried for him because I've heard that some missionaries don't exactly live in the best conditions and/or aren't treated with much respect by other Mormons or anyone else at all. He already has a crappy self-image, and he's a very sheltered guy that has never left the area, (other than to go to Utah,) and I'm worried that this will push him over the edge.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/30/2011 05:57AM by smile11.