Posted by:
judyblue
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Date: August 09, 2011 06:21PM
Every reason, every fact, can just be thrown out by TBMs as lies or the work of Satan designed to bring down the church, unless they are willing to accept that there is even the SMALLEST chance that the church isn't true.
Ask your family, "If I could prove to you, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the church wasn't true, would you want me to?" They'll either say yes because they're reasonable, or they'll say yes because they're so confident they think it's impossible, or they'll say no because "it doesn't matter what you say, the church is true no matter what."
The conversation I had with a friend once to explain my own reasoning for my disaffection with mormonism went something like this (it might be helpful, depending on how open-minded the person you talk to is):
Me: "If a small child asked you to define faith, what would you say?"
Friend: "Faith is something we believe even though we can't prove it. We have faith that the sun will come up tomorrow, even though we don't know the future."
Me: "Okay, so then that child grins and says, 'I get it! I have faith that you're going to buy me a pony!' How do you explain the difference between faith and just plain wishing? Do you think there's a difference?"
Friend: "Yes, of course."
Me: "I do, too. Think of it this way. If a perfect stranger walked up to you on the sidewalk and said you needed to take him to the bank, withdraw $1000 from your account, and give it to him, no questions asked, would you?"
Friend: "Of course not."
Me: "Because that would be crazy. What if your wife asked you? What if she said she needed you to get her cash from your savings account, and that you couldn't ask her why she needed it? Would you?"
Friend: "Yes."
Me: "Why? Why would you do it for your wife and not for a stranger?"
Friend: "Because I trust her. I know her."
Me: "So you have more faith in your wife than you do in a stranger, because you have years of experiences and evidence that she is a trustworthy person, right? Let's look at the rising sun anology you used. The reason we believe the sun will rise even though we don't know the future is because the earth has been rotating for billions of years, and we have no plausible reason to believe that it will stop rotating before tomorrow. So I think the difference between faith and wishing is you have to have a reason to have faith in something. Faith has to be earned. Would you agree?"
Friend: "Yes, that makes sense."
Me: "Okay. So what reason would anybody possibly have to have faith in the church? What reason does the church give people to put their trust in it?"
Friend: "It's not the church itself that gives you a reason. It's the holy ghost. You feel promptings of the spirit confirming to you that it's true."
Me: "Okay, so you get these warm fuzzy feelings? Who told you that those feelings are the holy ghost? Where did you get that idea?"
Friend: "Well, you learn about it in the scriptures, and from the prophets, and from your own experiences."
Me: "Your own experiences? You just decided completely on your own one day, without anyone telling you, that those warm fuzzy feelings were from god?"
Friend: "No, I guess I learned that at church as a kid."
Me: "Right. Well, why do you believe what they tell you at church? What reason do you have to put your faith in the things they teach you?"
Friend: "I pray about it and feel that it's true."
Me: "And who told you that feeling came from god?"
Friend: "..."
After a few more rounds of circling back to the same answers, I challenged my friend to think of one thing, one reason to believe in the church that didn't loop directly back to "because the church said so" and get back to me. He never did.