Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: September 02, 2011 03:38AM
I completely identify with this thread!
I think I'll save your post, CA Girl, because sometimes I let these creatures make me feel bad, and I need to be reminded how juvenile, shallow, and cruel they are. I had a calling in the YW for many years, and I felt that the mothers were far more petty, competitive, and back-biting than the daughters were. You are right--some Mormon women never become grownups.
I regret that I allowed them to make me cry! These were my friends, my neighbors, and our children used to play together, but now I no longer exist in their world. I feel that it can be psychologically and emotional devastating to be "erased."
Unfortunately, this manipulative behavior works--especially in families--and the lonely ex-Mormon returns to the fold. Of my friends who have returned, only one has stayed, because she married a Mormon. The others realize that they become very depressed in Mormonism, and a little shunning is a small price to pay for a happy life.
Birthday cards like Ca Girl, Loveskids, and I have received deserve RETALIATION of some kind! The last RS birthday card that was left on my porch, dollar-store candy, had the wrong name on it! I think it is harassment to our own private birthday to remind us that we are being shunned by our ex-cult. Talk about a birthday buzz-kill!
Perhaps we should send each of these bi-otches one of those birthday cards that makes fun of your age, or a card that says, "Happy 50th Birthday" when she's 40, or a Christian bookstore card. Stuff it in the mailbox, along with some very fattening gooey chocolate, on a hot day. Misspell her name, and write that Jesus misses her.
The only thing I understand about this horrible behavior, is that shunning does give one a perverse sense of power. I admit that sometimes I ENJOY shunning them back.
Can you imagine any NORMAL woman snubbing you because you've worked hard, and have built a nice career to support your children? Or, that you ask perfectly innocent, logical questions sometimes?
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/02/2011 03:46AM by forestpal.