Posted by:
alex71ut
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Date: October 31, 2011 02:45AM
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,114644,115130#msg-115130If this is your story it sounds like your grandfather presided over a pretty sick family. Well its not your fault so I hope you have or will soon totally accept the fact that its not your fault. In fact its not his fault or your parents fault either IMO. They obviously were just born into the cult and thus they really don't know what they are doing. It sounds like you figured out at a young age that the church is BS and as a result you eventually broke free. What I'd suggest you do is that you meet your grandfather for lunch somewhere at a restaurant and not meet him at your parents' home. I'd also suggest that you take your GF with you if she's willing to go. However if she doesn't want to go (and I certainly wouldn't blame her to not go) then I'd suggest going by yourself. And from the start I'd suggest you grow some strong balls of steel (you probably have but just make sure they're reinforced) and take charge of the conversation. The purpose of the lunch is to find out what the church's official doctrine is on how extended family relationships ought to be regarding the matter of people exercising their free agency and the diversity of opinions on faith/testimony on what is true vs. what is error. And then I'd ask your GA grandfather specifically on the incidents on whether or not it was appropriate for your mom/others to scream at you, at your GF, at her parents, etc. and that you don't expect him to answer such questions now but that you await his answer via email and then you will watch/wait to see how his posterity who have done evil towards you repent.
Just my 2 cents. Of course you are free to do whatever you wish to do on this. And I wish you the best of luck.