Posted by:
wirehead
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Date: November 20, 2011 02:13PM
My wife and I are talking more and more about how TSCC isn't making sense to her anymore.
* Imperfect people/couple are shunned (she is unable to bear child)
* Over-emphasis on BoM (where's Jesus in all this?)
* The overt racism with regards to "Lamanites"
* The temple ceremonies (only a little bit, dont wanna overwhelm her)
* The brainwashing, the control and manipulation done by the church
* The overly saccharine lovebombing when we do not attend
So, during the course of conversation I found out that she had tiny bits of doubt way back when she was married to her exhusband. But she was going because her sister went also.
I told her that the church IS a cult and it is a subtle one because of the way they use tactics to gain control of the people in the fold. She agreed, because she has noticed it herself.
She told me that the members get kinda bent out of shape just because she is a laid-back kind of person. They expect her to conform to the mold that they have set for people like her.
This is a significant part of why I want out of Utah and to live in Denver (our families in IL being another big reason). We feel that Utah is just a screwed up state because of the prevalence of TSCC. There is no separation between state and church at all, and she noticed that as well.
BYU is another sore point with us with how they have their hand in everything here in the Provo/Orem area.
And... just now, she said she doesn't want to go to church anymore. Dare I say we scored another victory?