Posted by:
BahBahBlacki
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Date: November 24, 2011 07:30PM
All throughout my childhood, I was abused in many forms by the idiot men who my mom clung to and thought she loved. I was also victimized by a boy that posed to be my brother's friend to get into the house. So many things...I became afraid of men. I was always paranoid when they looked at me, thinking they all had other things in mind. By the time we had ran away from my mom's latest disaster boyfriend (and his touching of me and threatening to kick my ass if I opposed him) and into a small Mormon community, I was messed up.
And when two young men in suit and tie showed up at my house one day, wanting to talk, I nearly had a heart attack. Luckily, they would only come in if my older brother was around. They were nice, kind...though wary of them, I was very weak. Tired of what I had been through just through the first fifteen years of my life. They caught me up into their magical world.
I remember flinching as one of the brothers got ready to dunk me. But I got over that. What really got to me, though, was my first Bishops meeting. I remember how my heart pounded and shivers went down my spine as he closed the door behind me. I was a poor, timid girl that sat down in that seat. The bishop was a good man, but I was afraid of the closed door.
"Why does the door have to be closed?" I had asked.
The bishop smiled at me. "It's for privacy."
Dear god. I didn't like it. I grew even more uncomfortable at the questions he asked me. Adultery, masterbation...the hell?! I answered no stiffly. What was this? I left that meeting feeling very violated. Every time I was called in to the Bishop, I left feeling more and more like a lowly creature. 'Do you have a testimony yet?' 'Ive noticed you don't participate much in class, why?'
Was the Bishop supposed to be the father I didn't have? He butted into my personal life, critiqued me, told me how I ought to be living my life. Then there were the YW leaders. The same thing. They'd pull me aside, act concerned. My mom was an innactive mormon, and they felt like they needed to take over my life. I was told my mother would go to Hell, and that I needed to accept that if she kept ignoring the church and sinning. She wouldn't be able to see me get married, and this and that and this...
The only thing that kept me in the fold was fear. Above all else, I was taught to fear God.
I'm happy to say things are better now. I resigned from the church this past August, and I'm much different from the scared little girl that joined the church seven years ago. My fear of men has greatly reduced, though I have had no counseling. I found my own strength and have finally began to live.
But I'll never forget what was discussed behind those closed doors. I can't believe they do that...they put that chocker and leash on ya asap and keep it tight with fear. And controlling ways. I'm glad I NEVER have to walk into an LDS church again...