Posted by:
melissa3839
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Date: November 16, 2010 11:05PM
Well, I understand that it can be frustrating to have someone say "no" at the height of excitement.
But in the case of women who tend to get "all hot and bothered", and then say no... Well... Believe it or not, its often because a lot of women really just want to hug and kiss someone. They just want to feel like someone thinks they're pretty, or even loves them. Quite a few of them are more interested in that, than they are in actual sex, especially if they haven't had many good sexual encounters. As in maybe their former partners were a bit inconsiderate?
Or sometimes, like in my case, they know they tend to fall in love when they have sex, and they don't want to risk developing feelings for someone who won't love them back.
They want SOME affection, but not "all" of it. You'd be surprised how many women (even in today's day in age) still don't ACTUALLY like to have sex unless they are at least sure both of them are sorta in love.
Again, I'm one of them, lol. There's a few conditions-- if my parter is very considerate and cares what I like, then sure, sex is great! But I also have the condition that we have to at least be in love.
Like many women, I LOOOOOOOVE to kiss. Man, when you are talking about a euphoric emotional high.... Kissing can actually be BETTER than sex! When I'm all wrapped up in my big "kissing high", and he suddenly pulls away (most guys quit kissing when they get ready to have sex) and starts trying to do something that I don't like to do unless I'm in love... It kinda throws a buckett of cold water on the high, and brings everything to a reality-based screeching halt! And then I'm like,
"Wait, what the hell am I doing??? I don't love you, and I'm pretty sure you don't love me either! I don't think so... Get off me!!" lol.
And I will make my intentions VERY clear, from day 1 that I don't like sex when I'm nto in love. I don't do one-night stands. And if a man ever pretended to love me just to get in my pants... Oooooooooo, big mistake!! I would seriously give up my whole paycheck just to hire some thug willing to beat him beyond recognition, lol.
My Italian grandpa (rest his soul) had mafia ties... Can you tell? lol.
Edited 9 time(s). Last edit at 11/16/2010 11:21PM by melissa3839.