Date: December 14, 2011 03:46PM
There is a HUGE difference. Society has vastly different expectations and considerations for wives as opposed to mistresses. I get that you don't see it but it is reality.http://aarticles.net/man-woman/8136-kem-luchshe-byt-zhenoj-ili-lyubovnicej-chast-1.html
"The relationship’s forbidden dimension also affects its balance of power, which is in part controlled by the unmarried mistress’s restraint and discretion. Though it forces on her considerable free time, especially during traditional holidays, it also liberates her from wifely domesticity into the mode and mystique of showing only her best face and her best behavior. The relationship may also feel or actually be egalitarian, with both partners bringing to it what they can and taking from it what they want."http://www.thenervousbreakdown.com/eabbott/2011/11/excerpt-from-mistresses-a-history-of-the-other-woman/
//The argument that one guy having multiple wives is not sustainable (and 80 wives? Ridiculous, that's only within the FLDS (and similar groups).//
I beg to differ:http://www.smh.com.au/news/world/death-verdict-for-man-with-80-wives/2008/08/22/1219262540154.htmlhttp://articles.latimes.com/2011/may/12/world/la-fg-nigeria-much-married-man-20110512http://www.iranian.com/main/blog/kamran201/man-158-wives-and-260-children
Shall I go on? In polygamy, it doesn't matter why, men with power want more and more wives.
//By the same argument, rich old guys getting divorced and moving on to a young trophy wife also takes women out of the dating pool for men that are in the woman's age group. So shall we discuss the ethics of trophy wives being taken out of the typical marrying age group, too?//
It takes ONE woman out of the marriage pool. If he divorces her to marry another it ALSO takes ONE woman out of the pool -- that's kind of the point.
//No, we've disagreed with Troy's reasoning, and provided examples to back up why we disagreed with Troy's reasoning. Like Troy, you seem to be suggesting that disagreeing with him is the same as changing the argument against all polygamy, based on mormon style polygamy only.//
No, you created a strawman that wasn't Troy's reasoning and argued against that. You've made claims that you haven't sustained, such as the claim that wives and mistresses are the same thing.