Posted by:
ronas
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Date: January 06, 2012 03:23PM
My wife and I need to find a good marriage/sex counselor. We've been to counseling twice before. Both times my primary hope for the counseling was to make forward progress on getting past some really negative cycles my wife and I have going on with the emotional aspects in our sex life largely driven by a strong difference in sex drive and what kind of sex we want to be having.
Both of the past counseling experiences helped us improve other aspects of our marriage but both completely failed to make any forward progress in the sex area.
My wife and I can actually already communicate quite openly without getting into fights and getting our feelings across to each other. But we both feel like we are constantly walking on eggshells in this area. There is a constant sense of dread that trying to work on it just ties it up in tighter knots.
How do we find a good counselor that will actually help us? How do we deal with me being and atheist and she being a TBM? Seems like any atheist counselor is going to tell my wife to quit being a prude and any TBM is going to tell me to quit being a sex addict and have god take my libido away.
We live in northern Utah Valley (PG).