Posted by:
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Date: January 14, 2012 04:57PM
At Chelmsford First Parish Unitarian Universalist church, where I am a member, we distribute prayer shawls to members of our congregation who are healing from one thing or another. Various members knit these simple shawls and on some Sundays we all bless them. The minister, Rev. Ellen, places the shawls in a basket and the whole congretation joins hands as some people put their hands on the shawl.
Ellen says a simple prayer about wellness and knowing you are loved and everyone says "amen" or "namaste" or "blessed be" or remains quiet. Some may think they have truly sent healing energy into the fabric, others think it is a truly kind gesture. Others sort of put up with it as one of the quirks in the life of our religious community.
Last Sunday, Rev. Elln brought a prayer shawl to me as I am recovering from a kidney donation. It was nice to have her visit and to have her run interference with our service committee that really wanted to do meals and cookies and stuff, but would have crashed into our friends and neighbors doing the same (the kidney recipient is a friend in the neighborhood so everyone wants to be on board with getting us both well!)
I felt no particular energy from the shawl, I may have even been one of the ones blessing it - or they may have done this one specifically for me I don't know. What I did feel was a reminder that I am connected to the outside world and as soon as I am up for it there are people to connect with and serve if I so choose. (Indeed the 7th and 8th graders moved their snow tubing party so I can be past the 6 week mark next month and still chaperone. They will not let me on the tubes however!)
This sense of connectedness is what I was seeking when I joined the mormons as a teenager many decades ago. Sometimes it WAS present. When I turned 25 and my visiting teachers brought a cake and sincere good wishes on my birthday and it was EXACTLY what I needed. When the bishop came over to the house to help bless a baby on Thanksgiving day because that was the time the most family members could be present.
My liberal TBM friends who remain in seem to really try to make these kinds of gestures and to rise above the petty sin sniffing and rule monitoring. I guess I wish them well, I hope they don't exhaust themselves.