Posted by:
westernwillows
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Date: January 28, 2012 09:57AM
My mom certainly did. She even told me, when I was in 8th grade, that she preferred spending time with my brothers over me because "they have more in common" In reality, I think it was because they were jewels in her eternal crown. Both are Eagle Scouts, both are RMs, and one is temple married (I'm sure the other one will be too) She got to show them off and brag to the ward about them...while I was just a girl. There's people she's known for 10 years or better that don't even know she has a daughter. I'm not married in the temple, haven't provided her with grandchildren...never mind that I'm running my own business and serving on our city commission and actually doing something with my life besides popping out one baby after another...
She wonders why we don't have a better relationship. I wanted a Gilmore Girls type relationship with my mom, where I could tell her things and ask her advice and get some non judgmentally...but that was wishful thinking. My mom is as TBM as they get, and no matter what I do, it will be judged. So I keep things selective. We talk once a month or so, and never about anything important.
On the other hand, I have a pretty good relationship with my dad. However, he was ALMOST out of the church when I was a child, until Mom dragged him back in. I would bet that if he outlives Mom, he becomes a fabulous exmo like me =)
Was it just my mother, or did you prefer your sons over your daughters when you were TBM? There's way more to brag about regarding your TBM sons vs your TBM daughters, that's for sure!