Posted by:
loveskids
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Date: January 29, 2012 10:07PM
This is the 3rd time I have tried to respond. I must be hitting some button,or doing something I am unaware of.The drugs I am on don't seem to help with the pain much,but I think they are making me stupid.
I have a divorce attorney,and a tax attorney.Both because of the same man,a man who thinks he can do what ever he wants and for the most part has gotten away with it. My tax atty was shocked when I brought in dh's income taxes for 2010. I knew nothing about them until I went on-line and saw what he did. And he signed my name. I hope this man will have to pay,at some time in his life,for all the cruel,hateful,dishonest thinhs he has done. But he blames everything on me. He said my accident was my fault because I don't eat enough. That I starve myself,and I fainted.My health issues have become much worse because I have not been able to get much medical help. He cancelled my health ins. 13 mths. ago. I've had cancer,I have osteoporosis,and I am on seizure med. So he pulled my health ins.
I moved out of our home with my 2 youngest in May. He is in the house. He quit making the house payment in July. Never said a word to me. My credit was 800.I had taken care of all the bills for 39 years. I now have no credit,and being a single mom,that scares me a lot.I have no idea what is happening with the house.
Dh started calling my attorney 3 months ago and demanded it be finished by Dec. 30. He was calling her every day and leaving messages threatening me. She stopped returning his calls,and he called more often. WHY??? This is my problem. Why does it have to be done RIGHT NOW? Is it just a game with him and he wants to call all the shots and bully me? Is it because he has told his parents and this new woman that he is already divorced? Or is it something I really need to worry about? Of course I want to be divorced from this evil man.But damn,I am just scared about the reason for the rush. We are dealing with a chronic,compulsive liar.I also think he has some type of mental issue.How can one person do everything to me that he has done,and not have some serious issues. He has no boundaries. He won't stay out of my house. He lays on my couch and watches TV. He tells my kids he will take them to Disneylan if they will come live with him. And on and on. And I believe he will be able to get what he wants,because he always has.
This new girlfriend lives in Utah. He is in Ca. From what I have learned from one of my daughters that lives with her dad,this woman is obsessed with him.DD says it is obnoxious and Jr.Hi. like the way she hears them talk. And she has read some of their emails. She says it makes her sick. Her grand parents are all excited about the relationship. When they found out their darling sons wife left the church,I was trash to them. 45 years I have known and loved these people. They were my parents too!! I have heard nothing from them reguarding my accident. Most of dh's brothers and all the grandkids etc. live in the same city in Utah. They are 80% tbm.And they are thrilled for him.He gets to march into the temple and marry this woman? Will the presidency be able to tell he is so not worthy to be there? Doesn't it just make you laugh and puke at the same time? What arrogance. This new woman has been widowed for 10 years. I hope she has many happy years with the man.
Thank you again for all the advice. My only concern in any of this is for my 2 youngest. They have been through much more than their share,and mostly because of their dad. He still refuses to admit he ever hurt them. The stories my ds has told me about the things his father has done to him breaks my heart. He has told his therapist some of the same stories,and also a lot more. I really don't want to know what he tells her,so I'm glad it's confidental. She has been wonderful to the 3 of us.Both kids trust her.She is coming over to our house tomorrow to see how we are all doing.She is helping me stay strong,and keeping me focused on getting better and making our lives better.