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fetching49
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Date: January 31, 2012 12:45AM
Today as I was gathering all of the paperwork for our taxes I kept reflecting back on past years of our finances and how different things are for us now. A few years ago when the recession hit we were still pretty TBM. We were starting to become dis-illusioned with the church but still sticking with it thinking it was just "Satan" working on destroying our testimonies. My husband held several callings that he dutifully fulfilled every week. We ended up taking some serious financial hits. I was laid off from work, had an unexpected high risk pregnancy, and the term "for better or worse, sickness and in health" really came into play. Nothing makes you appreciate a loving, helpful spouse like a vegetable who is suddenly unable to do anything for themselves or hold an actual conversation. During this time when we needed the very most help not a single person from our ward even called. As our financial position became more precarious I finally broke down and asked the Bishop for help. We were living on my unemployment soley for a home that was purchased with 2 full time incomes. We just weren't making it. I was denied any help whatsoever even though we paid tithing. Why? Because my husband hadn't been able to fulfill his callings for weeks and the Bishop was angry about trying to find replacements. I couldn't believe it. It wasn't as though he didn't want to fulfill his duties, he was physically unable due to illness. That year was the first time we didn't pay tithing on our tax refund. Things got worse, other events unfolded, and we ended up losing our home to foreclosure. At least it was an FHA loan. We are still dealing with all of it. In an attempt to save the house we lost all of our retirement funds, stocks, bonds, etc. We ended up cashing out every asset we had avaliable to try and remedy the situation. We also maxed out every credit card in our name. I went to the temple during this time in hopes of answers. All I got was mixed messages about crappy handshakes. No manna from heaven. No magical blessings from paying tithing all those years. I prayed like crazy and cried even harder. I have no idea what our return will be this year but whatever amount it will be for paying bills, not fun money purchases. This is the first year that we are doing fairly okay. Things aren't easy, we live a frugal lifestyle but all our needs are met and every month all of our bills are paid without stress. We even have a little money for extras, like real TV and the internet. I'm currently agnostic in my beliefs but I think I should be thanking someone for getting me out of the church. Had I stayed I am almost certain we would have ended up in a much worse position than the one we are in now. So much for a testimony in the blessings of tithing...