Wow, I could almost say "ditto." I was married 3 months after his mission homecoming and divorced 18 years later. And ditto on spending way to much time on someone that I now despise.
Nope--I was one of those who didn't wait. When you get letters telling you you can't talk about work because you work with 20 men and he is jealous, it gets rather old. When you find out all the missionaries in his district (or whatever) were sending out cooking contest letters to all the girls they used to love--it doesn't quite sit right. I wrote him off about 9 months in. That wasn't the end of it . . . he called bawling saying he was coming home. I told him if he didn't stay, I'd never talk to him. (Wasn't I a bitch?!?!--he deserved to stay!) Then his district leaders sent me a rude letter mimmicking my letter. There were a lot of reasons I wrote him off--not just those above.
So--I did go out with him once when he got back. We tried to be friends. He is a teller at a bank somewhere in Centerville.
No love lost there.
I met my current boyfriend at the time I was waiting--at work, but I didn't date him until MONTHS after I wrote the missionary off.
Heck-how did I miss this post. Yeah I waited. We had been together for 3 years before he left. Silly me-I told him I wouldn't marry him unless he went on a mission. He had an older brother that didn't go-to busy playing football. We got married 2 mths. after he got home. Now 38 years later (about 25 which were good) you know the mess I am in.
Yeah. I waited. The last letter I got, a week before he got home, said how much he loved me and couldn't wait to start the rest of our lives together, etc. He dumped me the day he got home, and married some chic from his mission 2 months later. And I was at Ricks that whole time...passed over quite a few guys that had the potential to be great relationships. PIG.
My wife waited and it took a while before we got married after I "returned with honor." Little did I know she was already engaged to the TSCC Cult. We still married and she is a good mother. It is interesting to note she has more pics of elderly LDS hierarchy men around the house than of me. Still married.. I'm out and have been mentally since day one. When I got home I never wanted to go to church again.
I did. Had to. We got engaged in college after being together for so many years in the dating game. As the wedding date got closer, he panicked. He told me none of his brothers had gone on missions and it would make his mother so happy if he did. Well, being the little molly that I was, I thought he was so so righteous, and I vowed to wait for him. We got married 3 weeks(!) after he got home. Invitations were mailed nearly the day he arrived. I was THAT sure. Married 23 years, 4 kids. When he came out to me in 1992, part of the confession he made was that he had gone on that mission because he was terrified of getting married.
We get along fine as long as lots of miles separate us, which they do.