Posted by:
lazarus
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Date: February 14, 2012 10:11PM
..... of coffee. Even though I haven't been to church for two years, I have still been afraid to do anything at work that would make people think I was inactive. Or, even worse, an apostate. This included drinking coffee. But, I have been working on this and other issues with a therapist (yes, the abusive indoctrination of the mormon cult can be seen in my need to pay a professional to help me feel comfortable drinking coffee at work).
It has been a blast to watch different TBM's at work not know how to react. Being in the moridor, I work with a current bishop, a former bishop, a few closet jack mormons, and everything in between. One morning, I was carrying around a thermos when one of the TBMs was talking to me in the hallway. He kept eyeing my thermos as we were talking. After he looked at it the 10th time I couldn't resist. I asked him if he wanted a sip. By his reaction, you would think I was offering the guy a joint.
Today, another TBM was in my office when someone was brewing a fresh pot of coffee. She looked at me with an almost disgusted look and asked where that strong coffee smell was coming from. She was two feet away from my mug, so I pointed at it and said "probably from right there." That shut her up.
My therapist gave me some great advice, maybe it will help others like me. He asked me what I was afraid of. I told him I was afraid of being confronted and judged. He said, "in other words, you are afraid of being persecuted." He then asked me if I was ever scared of going on a mission. I told him I was, at times, but I wasn't afraid because I thought I was serving he Lord. Not sure why I never made this connection, but here was his point. "Here's the great thing. Being raised in the church taught you to be ok with being persecuted. You got good at it. The only difference now is your beliefs have changed. You now feel it is OK to drink coffee at work. Will you be persecuted? Maybe, but who cares."