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anagrammy
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Date: February 17, 2012 12:47PM
This is justice.
In the eighties, my Mormon exhusband told me he no longer wanted to visit his six year old daughter, the youngest. He would take the others and pay for their plane tickets, but not her. Previously, he had disciplined her by locking her in a laundry room with no bathroom for several hours. In previous posts I have described his willingness to say things to his girls, such as, "I don't love you anymore because you have your mother's values, not mine." Or even to an 8 year old (swear to god) "I don't love you any more. I want a new wife and new children."
I told him he could not pick and choose favorites, that if he did not visit them all, he could not visit any of them. That was the end of the visiting and they never saw him again. (Which they didn't miss because he fed them out of the AM/PM and left them alone in the house with onion chips and peanut butter, saying, "make dinner."....they all joke about it now--but the cruelty left scars)
Last night this youngest child came over for some mom-food. She told me casually that she has been emailing my exhusband's oldest son, who is being pressured by his family to go on a mission. He feels his father's failure to acknowledge his apostate daughters is "terrible" and he is questioning the church. He is his father's acknowledged favorite, the heir. (BTW - He had five daughters with me and told me that he married me because he thought I was a proven boy-producer--I had four sons already-- and all he really wanted was a son). My ex has two other children with his new wife--he treats the second boy like a "spare" and the girl like an unnecessary redundancy.
My daughter described her conversations at length with her half brother. About the church, about them interviewing him and finding him unworthy because of masturbation, about his refusal to "work on his attendance", his refusal to set going on a mission as his goals and HERE'S THE BEST PART-- his real plans to enlist in the Coast Guard in April to get away from all the pressure.
Turns out, he has been asking questions about the church over the last few months and my youngest has been telling him things about serving a mission that I told her, that I learned from this site! About the lack of medical care, about the lack of attention to mental illness that resulted in that one missionary being pushed off the train platform into the path of an oncoming train by his companion who had a psychotic break and was not given immediate treatment...
At the time, she laughed and said, "Mom, you need a hobby." To which I replied, "This is one of my hobbies!"
I have underplayed my feelings of rage at the time, that not only did my exhusband evade paying child support, but he traumatized his little girls who loved him by denying them even the most minimal consideration of pretending he still cared about them. None of them have a relationship with him except his own firstborn, who wrote a song about him saying he said didn't love her when he took her to a baseball game. WHAT MONSTER DOES THAT?
So--I must confess to feeling the warm glow of the Holy Spirit of satisfaction in my chest as this karma plays out. The "new" child, the male bearer of his DNA and his values, is being lead out of Mormonism by the little girl he discarded.
The only one, he says, he can talk to.
Anagrammy
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/17/2012 12:48PM by anagrammy.