Posted by:
Cheryl
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Date: February 17, 2012 04:54PM
Last Sunday I was having lunch in a modest cafeteria style restaurant and I heard a patron telling management that her soup was tepid, not hot. "I'll see that it's reheated for you and I'm sorry for your trouble," was management's response.
The other diner at that table said his soup was fine as is and all three involved in the conversation were happily respectful of the others.
The point?
We all have little and big concerns in life but sometimes it's considered rude or picky to care even a smidgen about the small ones. Those who never complain or never object to anything sometimes think this means they are better people than those who try to fix small annoyances.
Often posters will say the less severe slights the morg perpetrates should be overlooked. We need to put our energy into only the most serious offenses.
The flaw in this is that NO ONE will spend all of their time and energy fixing huge wrongs. Realisticly, overlooking lesser wrongs does not contribute in any way to rectifying the huge ones.
All humans have individual pet peeves. I'm sure that includes Mother Theresa, Ghandi, and all of the most esteemed humanitarians living and throughout history. They might have spent a large portion of their time on huge human issues but I'm certain they also cared about a few small inconveniences and preferences as well. Trying to see that people had hot soup might have been something they worked on now and again. They might have strived to get it for their own pleasure as well as for others and in spite of the fact that hot soup doesn't have more vitamins than cold.
So often people on this board like to intimate they are better than other posters because they're not bothered by inconsequential issues like dead dunking, missionary harassment, anonymous cookies on their doorsteps after they've resigned, or being insulted for non-church attendance when they're concentrating on finding the best supermarket buys on breakfast oatmeal and and tuna for their work lunches.
I do not see exmos as more worthy and more high minded who ridicule and demean fellow recovering mormons because they bring up what those highly critical posters consider to be small unworthy issues.
Instead, I think this indicates a blindspot in human caring and a lack of immagination. Afterall, it doesn't take much of an emotional or intellectual stretch to understand that some things will natually bother one person and not someone else.