Posted by:
WinksWinks
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Date: March 07, 2012 04:52PM
Yes, and I wish there was more information about narcissistic behaviors.
I read a lot on daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com to finally get a handle on a lot of the behaviors.
I don't recommend participating, but it can be cathartic. Carol Y. found out that the website owner is a covert narcissist, most likely getting information on how best to manipulate and mess with people. Plenty of people still post very informative stuff there though.
I mean, a clinical description of how the narcissist views everyone else doesn't even scratch the surface of the kinds of behaviors and tactics they get up to.
Also useful to know is that people raised by narcissists ATTRACT other narcs. And may have picked up a lot of narcissistic behaviors simply from constant exposure, not knowing it's not "normal".
Children of narcs often wind up together, partly because of some of this lingering behavior. It's familiar, they know how to deal with it, and it's usually not as malignant or pervasive as someone with the full blown personality disorder.
Me and the hubs were both raised by narcs. His were starving poor, extreme liberal, matriarchal, squatters. Mine were poor but not starving, extreme conservatives, patriarchal, mormon snobs.
We have a strange amount of personality likes and dislikes in common though. We each ran far from the extremes of our families to the middle politically.
Depending on a lot of factors, a full blown narc personality may not ever be capable of recognizing what they do to other people as wrong.
Doesn't mean they're all hopeless cases, like my mother always thought something was wrong with her, when she was younger, she recognized that her behavior was offputting to a lot of people, but not why. She decided she's on the autism spectrum, and that was that. No more personal growth, that's how she is. Now she's very entrenched in her behaviors, hypochondriacal, and blames everything on a poor memory. How can anyone hold anything against her if she has no idea what you're talking about???
Problem is, she's not that forgetful, it's only about negative things she's done. That and she's getting more deliberate and overtly malignant now that I've confessed to my apostacy.
I think she could have changed and worked on herself if she'd gotten some counseling early enough.