Date: September 17, 2010 02:35AM
This was posted in the Provo Craigslist rant and rave section on Sept. 5th. Even if, as a non-mo, you don't hear anything, you will certainly get nasty looks or disapproving glances.
To the Mormon woman who was nasty to me for wearing a sleeveless top:
I was visiting Utah because my husband, who is a professor at a university at another state, had a conference at BYU. We brought our 2 year-old son with us and thought this would be a fun vacation. Vacationing in Utah was anything but fun for myself or my family. My husband and I were shocked at the level of judgment and just all around nastiness we encountered from the Mormons of the Provo area.
Even though we put up with countless rude words during our few days here and overall bizare behavior, the woman eating dinner with her overweight husband at the Lindon Wallaby's on Friday evening took the cake. She had ivory colored polyester pants hiked up high on her waist, with a skinny belt and a top tucked in. She had brown straight hair just past her chin, with glasses. She dressed like she was 60, even though I think she may have been in her twenties or early thirties. I'm in my early thirties and dress appropriately. I'm modest. I just am not Mormon and do not hold the same belief system as Mormons. I personally believe that it matters more how kind we are to our fellow man, than what kind of underwear others have on, but I digress. My top was very tasteful. It was well made. While it was sleeveless (it was HOT outside!!!!), it was extremely modest. It came nearly to my shoulders and while it had a scoop neck, it came up pretty high for a scoop neck. It was long, to my hips, but was loose, not form fitting. I am in shape and take excellent care of myself, but always dress modestly. It does NOT make me a slut because I take good care of my body.
This pious woman turned around in her chair and wouldn't stop staring at me while I was getting my son out of the high chair. Her husband and she were both staring at me and talking to each other loudly enough for me to hear. Apparantly, they were offended at what I'm wearing and that caused them to QUESTION WHAT KIND OF MOM I AM!! Because I had a sleeveless, modest top on! I am an excellent mother. My son and I had a very lovely dinner and were laughing with each other and working on his words (he just turned two) during our meal. Our time and meal were ruined by this couple. They made me feel horrible about myself and I have no idea why, as I am usually a confident person, but the Mormons have turned making others feel like a piece of trash into an art form. That is how I have felt the whole time I have been here to Utah. Like trash.
I have been watching those "I'm a Mormon" ads where I am from and was curious to find out what Mormons are like IRL. As a fellow Christian, I expected them to act the same way Christians act in my congregation--with respect and kindness towards each other. At the very least, they should be grateful others are spending their hard earned dollars traveling in their state.
I plan on telling everyone I know exactly what the Mormons in Utah are like. They are nothing like those actors in the 'I'm a Mormon' commercials. I plan on spreading the word. I don't know what you people's problem is. I don't know if you judged me because you figured I was a Mormon who took the same vows you took to not wear sleevless clothing or what. It is legal to wear sleevless tops with capris in this state, right? Because you guys made me feel like a worthless piece of white trash, even though I have a PhD and am an excellent mother. I even quit work until my son is in preschool so that I could be a SAHM and mother him the best that I see fit. What does the clothing I choose to wear (it was modest) have to do with my mother capabilites? Why be so nasty to someone because of a modest sleeveless, tasteful top? It was even loose fitting. Why was that necessary? How is this a sign of someone's character? I feel that it is a better sign of someone's character that they turn and stare at someone's chest area and make nasty comments, while speculating about the stranger's underwear. As a woman who was alone with a small child, I felt very uneasy about this rude intrusion, all while I was just trying to have a nice meal with my son. :-(
I guess it made it all make more sense why we were treated so horribly by everyone the whole time we were here. It was hot, so I had also worn shorts with a T-shirt the day before. I have never in my life been given so many dirty looks or made to feel so horribly about myself. I am a woman with good self-esteem and am very kind to people I meet, so normally have the exact opposite experience as I did in Utah. You guys can have your state and your stupid religion that makes people act like jerks. Good riddance!!!! I have a friend who was looking into your church and I already told her all about you people. She has called the missionaries to tell them, "no more". Thank goodness she will remain the kind, loving, Christlike person she already is. The world could definitely do with one less Mormon.
Please remember that outside of Utah, there is a whole world that takes place. In this world, people are good and are just trying to live their lives with their families. You have not cornered the market on religion or family values--by any stretch of the imagination. There are people out there who do not dress like pilgrims, but who are still great loving people and parents. I don't even drink alcohol, so thought I would fit in fine, but I guess I forgot that to dress like a nun in 90 degree weather, so I am judged as evil white trash. You complain that the rest of the world persecutes you, but I think you have a perseuction complex. Maybe if you weren't so nasty and judgmental to people, they would be nice back to you. It's worth a try. What do you say? Wanna trade some of your ugly clothing for a smile or some good old Christian charity?
Grateful to be away from the Mormons