Posted by:
robertb
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Date: April 09, 2012 11:12AM
Early adulthood is hard. You have a lot of major decisions to make, you want a relationship, and you don't have a lot of experience, money, etc. Plus, you have recently made major shift in your life view. It's a lot to take on.
Can I make a suggestion? Set aside for a while the issues you don't have to deal with right now as much as you can. You can set aside, for example, thoughts about God and afterlife. The church teaches us that those are vital, immediate issues that we have to think about all the time. They may be important to many people, but they will also keep until later. God and afterlife, if they exist, aren't going anywhere. :-)
Prioritizing what you can and have to deal with right now and what you can wait on helps a lot.
As far relationships, they are individual. If you let yourself think of dating as exploration about who you are and what you like--and about having fun--it's easier and less loaded with self-judgment. The self-judgment, like the God-worries, are all Mormon baggage. Mormonism says, "You have to be worthy. Relationship have to lead to marriage." It's a big load to take into relationships.
Therapy may be helpful. If you are going to college, they often have low or no-cost counseling services. A support group or self-help book may be, also. One self-help book I like is Mind Over Mood. by Christine Padesky. It is a workbook that helps with anxiety and depression. It helps you identify and change thoughts that cause you to feel anxious or depressed. Another is What's Right With You by Barry Duncan, Ph.D.
http://www.amazon.com/Mind-Over-Mood-Change-Changing/dp/0898621283/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1333982661&sr=1-1http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Right-With-You-Dysfunction/dp/0757302548/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1333984318&sr=1-3Hang in there. Life will get better!