Posted by:
Flat Lander
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Date: April 13, 2012 09:30AM
. . . both in Europe, earlier in this century. Neither ever baptized anyone, or had a companion who ever baptized anyone, and neither served in a district that ever had a baptism.
Both of my sons did reasonably well psychologically when they could write home often about their non-church activities. We responded with great interest in their tourism, P-day, and social interactions. My younger son, however, also included our ward bishop on all of his e-mails home. The bishop wrote back to him and convinced him that the reason he was having so little success (and thus disappointing the Lord) was that he was telling too much about his travels and activities, essentially that he was having too much fun, and that his letter should concentrate exclusively on spiritual things. His mission pretty much sucked after that. He was in France and spent quite a bit of time in Paris, and the whole idea of someone saying, "You're 20 and in Paris, don't have fun" still bugs me to this day.
So, as Tabula Rasa suggested, I think letters and e-mails, but I would concentrate on any fun things he's doing, and encourage him to tell you about the travel and cultural things, the food, the things he's learning about the Philippine people, etc. Encourage him to have fun.
Both of my sons have now resigned from the church, and clearly, absolutely, the missions were a big part of their reasons why. The second son came home apparently gung ho, but actually resigned within six months. The older one went inactive immediately upon returning home, and resigned a few years later.