Posted by:
NormaRae
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Date: April 30, 2012 12:34AM
I think this is the problem mormons have with not understanding why people say the church should allow "unworthy" parents, unendowed friends and younger siblings and other family to all attend a wedding. They're thinking that it makes no sense that they could allow someone like that to enter the temple for any reason.
They're completely missing the point. NO ONE should be getting married in the temple. Weddings should be weddings. It should be a day that is inclusive, not divisive. It should be a day a bride feels beautiful, not afraid to look in a mirror because she has to hold tears back about how ridiculous she looks and then has to lie and say how beautiful it was. It should be a time when the couple makes real vows TO EACH OTHER. Vows that they may want to write themselves. Vows that say how they're going to be together during life. This life. The one they know. The one they have to somehow figure out and survive before they can even think about eternal marriage. They should have pictures of themselves making those vows to each other. They should have pictures of their first kiss as husband and wife. The wedding party should be, well, part of the f*cking wedding, ferchrissake.
The sealing should be a totally different animal. All couples should have the opportunities Mitt and Ann Romeny had. They should be able to get sealed the next day, week, month or year. I know two couples who have stood up for themselves and done it anyway. Even though they knew people would think they were unworthy to marry in the temple, which they were not. One guy told his brother (who I worked with), that they thought a sealing for their first anniversary would be even more meaningful than when they married. It would be a great way to renew their vows. They'd know for sure, after really getting to know each other, that they want to make that commitment for eternity. And if one of them died before the year was out, they wanted the other one to really decide whether they wanted to be proxy sealed or wait until they knew if they would be spending the better part of their lives with someone else who they'd bear children with and want to be with for eternity.
Kids these days have access to much more information. Many of them will know how ugly the temple wedding is before they go, unlike we did. I think if couples start using their own brains, communicating with each other and standing up for themselves, it might catch on. It is what I wanted to encourage my own daughter to do, but was too chicken. I hope that there are parents who are more caring and extroverted than I was and will start saying "enough is enough." My daughter is going to have a beautiful wedding.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/30/2012 12:36AM by NormaRae.