Posted by:
BahBahBlacki
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Date: April 30, 2012 11:43AM
It's finally hit home just how messed up Mormons and Marriage can be. I've been out of high school for four years, and half of my female classmates got engaged just their first year into college. Married soon after, had kids. Some nevermo friends I had there at HS got pregnant right off the bat ( one even during hs. ). But all in all, the people I more or less had an association with either started a family right off the bat or started the process. It was mind boggling and made no sense to me, even before I left the church.
One particular girl got married about two years ago. She's bright, smart, and very talented. I had even met her guy before their wedding, and even then I remember feeling something odd about their relationship. Things obviously didn't work out, because last time I checked up on her she's now single.
It's unhealthy to rush like this. But the church nails it into your head that you MUST get married as SOON as Mormonly possible. I remember how my YW teachers would have us recite "I will marry in the Temple; I will be morally clean for my husband; I will marry a return missionary".
They were obsessed about making sure the YW would be ready to serve their husbands. Again, even as a Mormon at the time, it freaked me out how we were supposed to be entirely submissive to men. Coming from a background of much abuse from men, I had a real problem with this.
It's just so messed up. I have two best friends who are Mormon, and it makes me sad to see how desperate they are for marriage and scouting out returned missionaries and the boys in their wards.