Posted by:
saviorself
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Date: December 09, 2010 11:28AM
There is an excellent book that addresses the issue of finding the right person to marry. Here is a link to the book:
http://www.amazon.com/Are-You-One-Me-Avoiding/dp/0440506700/ref=sr_1_1The title is "Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong" by Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. This book was on the New York Times best seller list, and has sold over 3 million copies.
There is a chapter about "seven compatibility time-bombs", and one of those is a difference in religion. That incompatibility is a ticking time-bomb that is very likely to blow up the relationship at some point.
You say that you will not convert to Mormonism (which is an extremely intelligent position) and it sounds like your BF is unlikely to ever give it up.
There are millions of fish in the sea. You have found the wrong one since your religious views are totally incompatible. If the relationship fails that will cause you terrible problems and frustration. It might seem difficult to break off the relationship now, but the degree of difficulty will only get worse as time goes by. If you get married and then have children, and then the religious problem blows up the marriage, your amount of heartache and grief will be like nothing you can even imagine.
My advice is for you to (1) buy this book, (2) read it cover to cover, and (3) decide whether your Mormon BF is really the right partner for you. My best thinking is that you are making a huge mistake. But discovering something for yourself is worth 50 times as much as somebody else (me or other posters) telling you the same thing.