Posted by:
anotheranon
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Date: June 04, 2012 09:44AM
I am divorced, with and ex who is TBM. A parent of my ex has been interfering with my kids, by telling them negative things about me. When I confronted this person (grandparent) it was denied and in fact, the person tried to turn the tables by telling me that the reason for all of these issues is because I haven't clarified the reason I divorced my ex, and that I have been teaching our kids a contrary philosophy.
This person encouraged me to tell them why I divorced my ex so that they (the grandparents) will have a good explanation to give the kids (their grandkids), and that it was time for me to put aside my philosophical differences with the ex so as not to confuse our children.
I replied back by telling the ex in-law that it was none of their business nor their responsibility to tell the kids anything about the divorce or my views. That I am responsible for this and am fully capable of doing this for the kids without outside help. In other words, "STFU!"
It was the in-laws intruding in the marriage that cause significant problems in the first place. That and because my ex was/is turning into the in-law parents--controlling, self-righteous and completely inflexible about me continuing to grow in personal "philosophy" that caused much of our break-up.