My sweet and loving Mom just died in my arms. I was able to hold her in my arms and close her eyes as she passed. Been feeling kind of bad because she wasn't able to see our new four day old grand daughter (her new great granddaughter). But what a privilege to have such a loving, caring Mom (never a mormon). We've had many hard aches and tragedies, but to my surprize since I am out of the church with this sad time it is absolutely easier without the crazy mormon nonsense. I wondered how it would be to not have the kind of belief I had, the priesthood, blessings... That crap filled the void that I should have been thinking about other things. I believe I will see my Mom, not sure where, how or when and I don't need to know. I have no answers to that and I don't need them. I don't have to sit through a hurtful, stupid lds funeral like we did when our baby died... I don't have to do anything right now. Oh my gosh will I ever miss her being in my life and that of my children and grandchildren.
I hope when it's my turn I'm an old lady and have my beautiful daughters at my side. Moms are with us forever in our hearts, I even sometimes see her in the way I stand. Or the things I say. My eyes are like hers. My spirit is like hers. She is never lost to you. Time proves that out.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Tawanda. A loving mom is a blessing.
Be very gentle with yourself over the next few days and weeks. Give yourself encouragement and love for whatever small things you are able to accomplish during the day. Your mom would want you to take good care of yourself.
So sorry about your Mother's death. Grief is not an easy journey. I'm glad that you don't have to deal with this sad loss through Mormon ritual. What a nice tribute to her when you said: "what a privilege to have such a loving, caring Mom."
as she died. I was late by one hour to see my mother before she passed. It always makes me feel a little sad that I couldn't be with her but sometimes the unexpected happens quickly.
Take time to cherish those memories you shared with her and know that she will always be with you. My mom is never far from my heart and I often say a thank you to my mom when I recognize something important in my life that I learned from her. Yours mom sounds like you had that special and loving relationship too.
Take care and enjoy that new granddaughter. Life is about comings and goings, and they both bring smiles and tears in their own way.
DEAR PAULA I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MOTHER PASSING AWAY
YOUR A GREAT PERSON HEAR AT THE LOTTERY WHO WILL BE MISSED AS YOUR OFF AT YOUR FUNERAL AND WAKE BEST OF LUKE TO YOU. HOPE ALL GOES WELL AND HOPE THINGS TURN OUT OKAY WITH YOU.
Deepest condolences on your loss. My Mom's passing is still fresh in my memory even though it was almost 16 years ago. Your grief is important so embrace it. Those feelings will be replaced over time with warm memories that will sustain you....
I'm so glad that you had a mother that loved you and showed it. Cherish that always. I'm so sorry you have to be without her. You will see her in yourself, and in your children. Pass her love onto your babies.
It's amazing to me to think about life. I think more about life than I ever did as a mormon.
Just to think about the time between when she held her newborn baby and when you held her as she passed. The life events that transpired during those years! Amazing.
My condolences to you and your family. My mom died last year and I miss her SO much. Since then, I can't watch anything that has a mom dying or deals with mother/daughter relationships without bawling like a baby. Seeing Brave with DH & DD this weekend was a huge mistake. I cried through nearly half the movie.
How lovely for both of you that you could be there for your mom. I'm sure it brought her much comfort. I will hold good thoughts for you and your family. ...and congratulations on your new granddaughter.
My condolences to you and your family at this time. I'm sure it was a comfort for your mom, as well as you, for her to be in your arms at the end of her life. I'm sure you will be able to grieve in your own way now that the cult is out of your life, and try to remember that everyone grieves on their own time.
My mother passed in my arms, and it was an experience that I'm grateful to have shared with her.
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Being there for her will be a treasured memory. Were you out of the church long before her passing? I bet she was very happy for you and grateful if she had not ever been a mormon. I hope this for my own daughter -that she sees the truth soon and saves my grandson.In time you will get the peace one needs after this kind of loss. And yes, you will see her again. My thoughts are with you.
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your mama. I remember what my own mom said to me when my grandma passed away recently: No matter how old you are, or she is, that's still you're mom, and its hard to lose her.
Many thoughts coming your way, may the sweet memories be in the forefront of your mind.
and you guilded her out. There are no words....how cherished you both were to each other, hold onto that in the days ahead. Not everyone has that. My sincere sympathy is extended to you. Sending you big hugs from this MexMom.
Thanks for sharing the experience you had with your Mom's passing. That's the way we all want to go, isn't it?
So sorry for your loss. I think about my mother every day and miss her - she died in 2009. No one can take your mother's place, you just go on and honor her memory, like you did with your post.
I am so very sorry you lost your Mom. My Dad died 7 weeks ago and I am surprised at the emotions I experience. He was ill a very long time, aged, and still....I grieve. Hang in there, kiddo. Hugs, wings
Thank you so much for your heartfelt expressions of sympathy. I am grateful to each of you and for the help this site has been to me. Our children gave tributes to their Grandmother and our one week old Grandbaby was there too. I feel at peace.
tawanda2011 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > My sweet and loving Mom just died in my arms. I > was able to hold her in my arms and close her eyes > as she passed. Been feeling kind of bad because > she wasn't able to see our new four day old grand > daughter (her new great granddaughter). But what > a privilege to have such a loving, caring Mom > (never a mormon). We've had many hard aches and > tragedies, but to my surprize since I am out of > the church with this sad time it is absolutely > easier without the crazy mormon nonsense. I > wondered how it would be to not have the kind of > belief I had, the priesthood, blessings... That > crap filled the void that I should have been > thinking about other things. I believe I will see > my Mom, not sure where, how or when and I don't > need to know. I have no answers to that and I > don't need them. I don't have to sit through a > hurtful, stupid lds funeral like we did when our > baby died... I don't have to do anything right > now. Oh my gosh will I ever miss her being in my > life and that of my children and grandchildren.
Thank you for your inspirational post. I'm sorry for your loss, yet happy for the love and good memories you hold in your heart. What a beautiful relationship you had with your mother!
My best friend (non-Mormon) died last week, and my sorrow at her passing is painful--but it is balanced with love. Being free of Mormonism, I can face death with a more simple perspective, and better acceptance. The grief is pure. It is uncomplicated by feeling guilty, worrying about whether or not I'll be worthy to see the person again, or where in the hierarchy of kingdoms she will be, and all the other lies and myths piled on. Mourning is not about the church, it is about the people we loose. And it is about their life. No matter what else, we KNOW that these people will live on in our memory.
Thank you so much everyone. We were in tscc many years. I resigned a couple of years ago. We had many friends and were very active, blah, blah, blah... and busy with all our callings. Many people in the ward knew my Mom and I received one phone call from a church member expressing sympathy. These people were our friends. Everyone knew us. I was Primary President for many years. Granted I haven't attempted any contact for years but just seems so backward and thoughtless that condolences wouldn't be sent.
I am so very sorry for your loss i know how you feel.
My beloved father passed away a year ago August 8th. I just went to a family reunion this past week and 99.9% of the people that were not at the funeral said nothing about my loss. Even the people I thought I was closest to. That pretty much sealed my theory of, give condolences and acknowledge a loss no matter what.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this beautiful to your mom and your love for her. It reminds me to hold those I love a little closer every day.
I was with my Mom when she passed away. Even though it was the worst moment of my life I am so glad I was there with her. Its the least thing I could do for someone who was a near saint.
I feel your pain, tawanda2011 and you have my most sincere condolences.
So sorry for your loss and glad for you that you could be with her at the end. We all hope to die in the arms of someone we love.
Forestpal, so sorry for the loss of your friend. I just went through that in December and I still look for my friend every time I enter the building (force of habit). It's hard to believe I will never see her again.
It does help to do something in honor of the person's memory.
Your mother sounds like an amazing person. What a lovely tribute you gave to her. You will get to have your Mom with you still because you will see in your child a resemblance---maybe the child's eyes or the way the child laughs. One thing you can do with your child is to be make your Mom's story and portrait part of his life and help him feel the love and gratefulness you have in your heart toward your Mom.
Give yourself time to mourn and take it one day at a time. Wishing you the best.
I am so sorry for your loss of your mother. I lost mine several years ago and it was and is still not an easy road to travel.
Keep in mind that you were by your mother's side and with her until she left this realm.
My (bastard--now) ex-husband insisted that we go home when my mother was on her death bed in the hospital claiming that that it could be days until she died. She died two hours after we returned home. A nurse called me to tell me she had died! I have never forgiven myself or him for leaving her!
She died ALONE!
I am so proud of you for being there for your mother.
To think that when u came into this world, she cradled you in her arms and gazed into your eyes, and at this point in your lives you were able to return this is just amazing to me.
I'm not looking forward to the day I lose my mother. She, too, is a warm and caring mother. She did so much for me that I cannot imagine my life without her. I treasure every day I have with her.
If your mom new about the four day old baby only through hearing you talk that is okay, and that means she could have had an understanding. I feel for you and am sending good thoughts as you get through this. Glad too that she is non mormon and you can have services that will help- not hurt- as you grieve.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I just lost my Dad 5 weeks ago. Losing a parent is never easy. Here's a virtual hug for you....{{{{hug}}}}. Take care.