Posted by:
rosemary
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Date: July 15, 2012 07:26PM
My brother used to be super inactive--really sowed some wild oats--until his son was stillborn two years ago. Sadly, because God apparently holds dead babies hostage, my brother and his wife started going to church again. (Whatever. People have to heal however they can. I just don't like the advantage the church is taking.)
The last time I saw my brother he told me that one of the men who excommunicated me for getting pregnant (no extreme circumstances. Just good, old fashioned hay-rolling resulting in pregnancy) is bishop now. I guess this bishop told my brother that drinking beer or coffee every now and then is not a big deal. The WOW is just for the people who are prone to be addicts. People who can control themselves don't have to be so strict.
Now, there are so many logical problems with this already, but my big question is: SERIOUSLY? SERIOUSLY?!!?
On our way home I was upset because of the obvious floating standard. My husband pointed out that if the church took a hard line against my brother, my brother would simply not come back again. But the men who exed me knew that I was such a goody-goody (really. In every way but one, and that was under heavy emotional pressure.) that I would do whatever they told me to do. In short, I would "take it".
How cruel is that? To mete out abuse simply based on how willing a person is to take it? I think I read on this board once something about how the church grooms us into perfect victims.